Dr. Rob and Tami talk about why addiction can be the biggest gift you've ever received. It might sound hard to believe, but when Tami finally accepted that she was an addict, it was the first time in her life that people taught her how to function in society. Before that, she had no plan, she was a mess, and there was so much suffering. Today, Tami is grateful to be an addict, people have showed up and believed in her recovery, and she’s able to give that gift to others.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I’m worried I’m too dependent on my addict’s recovery. Should I focus on myself?  [6:05] Is depression common among addicts?  [9:10] Was there ever a moment where you saw your attitude towards addiction change? [12:05] It takes time to love yourself in a way that you’ve never received before.  [15:15] You’re an addict, and now there’s a whole community out there that can help you and support you.  [16:25] How long till I feel safe again? Is it possible?  [20:00] My addict shared his journal with me and broke down crying. I told him I was proud of him, but was this the wrong move?  [24:00] Two troubled people together are going to grow more effectively than two single people.    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss