Dr. Rob and Tami address several partners of addicts who are projecting blame onto them and advise them on what to do to protect themselves. A spouse who is deflecting or getting angry is not taking on accountability and could be damaging your family in many ways. Dr. Rob and Tami also emphasize the importance of treating your addiction like any other dire health condition; you HAVE to carve out the time for recovery and find the right professional help. Plus, a listener writes in with a raw and vulnerable plea about how to come clean to his partner about his addiction.   TAKEAWAYS: [:24] I recently discovered my husband has been secretly using escorts. He reacted by blaming and being angry with me. Is it worth trying to work it out or should I contact an attorney? [5:14] Why does my partner blame me when he gets inappropriate text messages? [7:45] I am a male addict with a very busy work schedule. Are there affordable therapists that work flexible hours? [15:17] I’m just recently sober from both addictions, and I’m having anxiety and panic attack side effects. Is that normal? [20:13] Dr. Rob clarifies how to use his system and book Out of the Doghouse. [21:40] I’m a gay male who has struggled with porn addiction for 15 years. My first-ever partner supports my recovery but doesn’t know I’ve sexted a few strangers. How do I tell him?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss SRH Webinars