Dr. Rob and Tami talk about how you can help someone when they refuse to see themselves as an addict. Dr. Rob has unfortunately seen this happen with recovering addicts, who one day have a revelation that they’re not an addict, they’re just ‘sexually librated’. Dr. Rob and Tami also talk about the difference between casual porn use vs. when it’s a problem, and ho to handle shame and guilt when you’re on a path to recovery.    TAKEAWAYS: [0:25] My partner doesn’t think he’s a sex addict. He thinks he has an integrity disorder. What do I do?  [5:25] What kind of marriage do you want at the end of the day? You can set the rules too! [8:20] As a betrayed spouse, I am grieving the loss of the beautiful memories we shared together. How do I process this pain?  [12:00] Addicts are mentally ill.  [12:45] I am obsessed with my ex’s affair partner. How do I get over this?  [15:50] 90 days clean. My wife has seen everything on my phone. How can I build trust with her?  [19:20] How do you know the difference between casual porn use vs. addiction-level porn use?  [22:20] As a betrayed partner, when can we have sex again?  [26:15] I always feel shame and guilt after sharing in meetings. What can I do? [29:55] Your best thinking is what got you here in the first place.  [31:00] Addiction is just a symptom. Therapy helps you get under the service, but not everyone can afford it.    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss