Dr. Rob and Tami offer advice from a husband who has betrayed his spouse. Although he’s been sober for 22 months now, his wife still feels so hurt by his past actions. He automatically wants to be on the defensive when she’s upset, but can’t. What are some of the best ways he can comfort his wife? Dr. Rob and Tami share different approaches to help this couple move forward and toward healing.   TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My spouse and I each have our own therapists. Does it ever make sense for us to meet with the same therapist? [8:35] My former sex addict also babysits little children, should I be concerned for those little girls’ safety? [15:25] My wife is still upset about my past. How can I comfort her during this time? [19:45] Tami offers some different ways/words you can communicate to your betrayed spouse. [21:10] Dr. Rob talks about why we might act out “randomly.” [26:45] There’s nothing wrong with having an escape plan to get out of a very triggering moment for you.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss