Dr. Rob and Tami talk about attachment theory and why understanding how this affects addicts differently than a “normally” attached person. Tami also explains what the FANOS acronym is and how you can incorporate it with your partner to be better in tune with your needs and their needs. All this and more on this week’s episode!   TAKEAWAYS: [:45] Can you please help me understand attachment theory? [1:55] Addicts lack trust. Why call somebody for help when I can just drink? [2:55] Dr. Rob learned that he had to make himself feel better on his own. [3:55] Addicts have attachment issues because they don’t turn to people. [7:40] What is the FANOS acronym? [10:25] Why do people cheat? [12:55] How does Dr. Rob define addiction? [17:55] What do you do if he’s not taking action and accountability? [19:50] Dr. Rob has seen it time and time again. Addicts go into recovery once they’ve been  “found out.” You need to go for YOU. [21:55] Tami has given spouses and addicts resources. And, they refuse to do them! [26:15] Dr. Rob has learned the hard way about his narcissism.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss