Dr. Rob and Tami explain to someone in recovery why their betrayed spouse still feels hurt and angry despite him being in recovery for the last two years. Will things ever go back to normal? The answer is no. Dr. Rob explains that “normal” was not sustainable. You were an addict and you were living a lie! As you go forward in your marriage, you have to embrace a new normal.   TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My wife thinks she doesn’t respect herself for coming back and forgiving me. How can I show up for her? [6:25] I have shifted my addiction so it’s no longer toxic. Am I technically “cured”? [10:55] As an addict, you’re asking the wrong question! [11:55] We can’t seem to find a CSAT that we can afford. What can we do? [17:05] Mental health is health care and you want the very best you can find. [18:55] I want to love him, but how do I take care of myself? [24:55] My wife doesn’t believe the recovery has helped. How can I be more consistent? [29:35] Are you really listening to her?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss