Dr. Rob and Tami answer a painful question from a listener. Should you get back with your partner that continues to act out? A relationship is a two-way street, if he is not putting in the effort to be a better husband and father, then you need to start taking care of yourself and do what’s best for your children. An addict will always find an excuse to “put it off.” It’s painful and tragic, but Dr. Rob and Tami have a support group for betrayed spouses who need to heal from the pain their addict has caused.   TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Can a SA be a sponsor even when they haven’t completed all the steps? [4:45] Acting in service of others is always going to be a good thing. [5:45] Dr. Rob, can you tell me a little bit more about DBT? [7:40] Is there a specific order for recovery when you have more than one addiction? [12:10] How many meetings a week should an addict attend? [17:20] I separated from my addict. Now what? Should we divorce or try to keep working on it? [23:45] Why would someone fantasize having sex with strangers? [26:40] No one can control their fantasies! [29:50] You can set expectations but you can’t make them happen.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weissmklllkkkjlj