Dr. Rob and Tami answer a painful question from a listener about whether he should tell his child and relatives about the reason why he and his wife are divorcing after formal disclosure. They also answer whether it makes sense for couples to practice celibacy while in recovery, and share their thoughts on whether an addict has to be in a 12-step program in order to succeed.   TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My wife wants a divorce and to tell my son the reason why. [3:15] You will traumatize your children if you tell them about your betrayal. [5:50] Everyone needs to have boundaries, not just addicts. [7:40] Do you recommend a celibacy period for couples in recovery? [12:45] My husband had a bad 12-step experience, but he’s doing other things for his recovery. Will he still succeed if he’s not going to 12-step meetings? [19:15] Therapy groups will end, but addiction is a life-long thing. [21:25] How can you work on your core beliefs?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss