Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a fed up partner who has stuck by their addict for the last ten years and has finally had enough. Now, he wants to change for the better. Dr. Rob and Tami explore whether their relationship really is gone for good, or if there’s still hope for recovery. They explain the concept ‘dry drunk’ and why some addicts feel like they’ve got it ‘white knuckle’ their way through recovery instead of surrender and be vulnerable.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] He’s been sober for a year but still has a ‘terrible’ memory. What can we do?  [4:45] You are asking for the bare minimum of what you deserve!  [6:45] After pleading and pleading for him to get sober, I’ve decided to move on. Now, suddenly, he wants to change. I’m at a crossroads. What should I do? [8:00] Men often seek treatment because they’re super afraid about their partner leaving.  [9:45] You waited for him to get sober for 10 years. Now is the time for him to change.  [15:10] Is he showing up in his recovery or is he just using his words to manipulate you? [15:45] I have finished the 12 steps. How do I keep going forward in my sobriety?  [19:55] Recovery is a lifelong journey. [22:15] I’ve reached the bottom as a love and sex addict. Where do I go from here? [25:50] It’s never too late to start recovery! Dr. Rob sees men in their 60s seeking help.  [26:45] I’ve moved out of the family home to work on my recovery. How can I get my wife back?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss