Dr. Rob and Tami talk about whether a therapist should hold their clients accountable. Dr. Rob had some interesting things to say about this. If you’re an addict expecting to have someone else solve your problems or show up for you, then you’re back to your default ways. It’s time to get proactive!   TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Why did it go from pretty good to pretty miserable in my marriage with an addict? [6:20] Two months after the discovery and he wants to have sex! He’s also gaslighting me. What should I do? [11:25] How do I let go of resentment? [16:25] My therapist doesn’t hold me accountable. Should I change therapists? [24:00] Whenever my wife brings up topics, it brings her back to the pain of D-day. What can I do to make it better?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss