Rob and Tami discuss some of the challenges a betrayed spouse might go through when learning to love and trust their addict again. Tami shares her thoughts about polygraphs and why they’re not the end-all solution many betrayed spouses are hoping for. All of this and more on this week’s episode!   TAKEAWAYS: [0:55] My SA has been lying to his CSAT. What should I do to prepare for our CSAT session together? His birthday is also coming up. How can we still have a good time? [3:45] What do you need to do to take care of yourself? [5:55] Do you currently trust your addict? If not, do not celebrate his birthday. [6:30] My SA has cancer. Doctors say his libido will decrease. Does that mean he is less likely to objectify women? [10:00] Dr. Rob, can you talk more about the polygraph and how accurate it is? [17:05] I am in recovery from chem sex. Am I improving or am I still objectifying my partner? [20:15] The affair will always feel exciting, but it is not real. [22:00] What is the definition of a love addict? [26:10] Dr. Rob offers his thoughts on couples therapy and why it still always starts and ends with you.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss