Dr. Rob and Tami share some light into why an addict might betray their spouse’s trust. Was the last 40-plus years of marriage all a lie? The answer is no. Addicts are deeply broken people and, although this is not an excuse, they show love in very puzzling and misguided ways. Dr. Rob and Tami offer some understanding and insight into why an addict might think, and do, the things that they do.   TAKEAWAYS: [:25] How do I respond to my addict when he says I don’t appreciate him enough? [9:00] My SA husband still has sexual fantasies about friends of mine. What’s going on? [15:15] I can’t heal from the betrayal. I just can’t. What can I do to move forward? [23:40] My wife is asking me to stop hanging out with certain people, but she is still hanging out with a toxic friend. What do I do? [26:00] What does a healthy relationship look like? [27:35] You need to focus on your own healing. Are you interested in healing the relationship?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss