In this week’s episode, Rob and Tami talk about the 12-step program, ambivalent love and how partners can support addicts through their own roller coaster of emotions during betrayal. Rob and Tami reiterate that only you can take care of yourself and get to control how you feel in any situation.   TAKEAWAYS: [0:25] My boyfriend sexualizes strangers on Tinder. Is this behaviour healthy or normal? [1:10] Dr. Rob explains that not all people see the underlying issue and justify their behaviours. [4:10] What’s the best way for an SA and PA to learn rigorous honesty and how long does it take to get there? [05:11] Dr. Rob and Tami talk about the 12-step program and how it helps you become a better person. [09:18] SA’s husband is still in denial. How can they help him get past this? [14:00] Only you can take care of yourself. Dr. Rob and Tami expound on this further. [16:15] Dr. Rob shares more advice on how to deal with the roller coaster of emotions for betrayed partners of sex and porn addicts. [21:05] I’m a female sex addict since I was five years old. I’m in recovery but have had 16 relapses. Do you have some tips for me? [25:50] I do not trust my husband to not lie to me. How can I better recover more and get to a point of trusting again?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com 12-Step Videos Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Book by Robert Weiss Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss