Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a very upset listener. Her partner is accusing her of being unfaithful after the discovery because he feels she will just want to cheat back after finding out about everything this man has done. She is furious that this man is projecting his insecurities onto her. Dr. Rob and Tami share how this woman can protect herself, heal herself, and move forward from this projection.   TAKEAWAYS: [:50] Should my SA husband be treated for OCD? [4:45] I keep thinking I don’t actually want to be with my partner. How do I know if this is true or do I just want to freely act out? [12:00] Men often get discouraged because they do not fully understand their betrayed partner’s feelings. [12:55] Is it common that my SA partner doesn’t trust ME? [15:50] Betrayed spouses! Trust your gut. [16:15] I reached out to my sister for support and now it feels like I have to choose between my friend and my partner. [23:15] I’m not acting out but I do feel hopeless. What should I do?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss