Dr. Rob and Tami discuss why someone would “suddenly” become an addict in their mid-40s. Sometimes, there were no inklings that this person was even an addict in the first place, but how true is that? Dr. Rob breaks down why someone might become an addict out of the blue in this week’s episode.   TAKEAWAYS: [:35] My husband has nocturnal emissions. Is this normal or is he just lying? [8:05] My husband left some things out in formal disclosure. His therapist doesn’t think these details were important. Is there any hope that he’ll change? [13:05] Dr. Rob is concerned for people who lie in their recovery groups and to their therapists. [17:35] Is it ever possible that an addiction starts after a mid-life crisis? [20:45] How do I focus on my recovery when my partner isn’t sure if she wants to be with me? [23:25] What is the difference between prodependency and codependency? [27:15] How can I retrain my mind and be a better man?   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss What is the Concept of “Home,” Really?