Dr. Rob and Tami talk about what to do if you’re feeling hopeless in your recovery. If you are someone who messed up in your marriage or you’re the betrayed partner that’s thinking that the two of you will never recover, don’t lose hope! If you’re feeling low and beaten, ask someone in your support group to hold onto your hope for you. We do recover, and things do get better.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] How do I stop triggers and thoughts from becoming behaviors?  [5:15] He rarely offers me comfort. Will he ever be able to do this for me?  [11:40] Dr. Rob has to teach his mom to say ‘I’m proud of you’ to him. She had no idea that she could reward or validate her son in that way! [13:30] How do I manage my intrusive thoughts about what my SA did when he’s acting out? [18:20] Let your group be hopeful for you.  [21:15] If you don’t have sex with your partner, is that justification for them to be cruel or mean to you when you’re in a marriage?  [27:50] My SA will not do a formal disclosure. What’s up? [31:30] There is healing when in community. If he won’t work on your marriage, then you need to take care of yourself.    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss