Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from someone who is struggling with their ambivalent emotions against their addict. Dr. Rob senses this betrayed spouse has too much investment in the addict and not enough care or compassion for themselves. It’s important as a betrayed partner to practice self-care and to get a support group for your journey also!   TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My SA has had a couple of slips since his recovery. Is this normal? [6:25] You don’t have to be nice when he is hurting you! [9:25] Here are some proactive ways/conversations to talk to your partner about his slips. [11:30] How do you work through the pain of rejection of a potential sponsor? [14:20] Addicts are often passive. They get angry at someone and then go act out instead of talking to them. [17:45] I’ve been listening to this therapist. What are your thoughts on his approach to addicts? [18:35] My children don’t know about my addiction. How can I lessen the damage to them? [25:15] I feel so ambivalent and he gets annoyed that I still don’t trust him yet. What can I do? [27:00] Addiction is a chronic condition and needs to be worked on daily. [30:15] Dr. Rob smells some lies in the mix around this particular addict. [33:15] It’s not your job to cheer for his success!   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss