Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a young listener who is wondering if their trauma and attachment style is the problem or if they’re truly incompatible with the person they’re currently with? They don’t know what to do. Life circumstances might have gotten in the way where this person feels resentful towards their partner, but Dr. Rob and Tami share their wisdom and advice on when it makes sense to stay, or to move on, in this week’s episode.    TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I resent and punish my partner. Is this a problem with my attachment style or have I just lost interest?  [2:40] There are ways you can improve the relationship, but who you are is who you are. [6:40] You can always work on your communication.  [7:40] Dr. Rob always encourages couples to stay together, because it’s brutal out there.  [9:40] It’s hard to believe a man who said he loves me could do all these horrible things. How do I know if anything he says is real/the truth?  [12:40] What is an impact letter? Dr. Rob suggests you write one.  [16:20] If you’re willing, you can change your life and be a better person.  [19:20] My husband says I’m just not his type and that’s why he cheated. What?! [22:45] I think my husband did something last night and he won’t show me his bank transactions. Are my instincts right? Has he relapsed?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss