Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a man who is struggling to find honesty and empathy during his journey through recovery. His therapist believes he should dive into his childhood traumas, but he’s unsure of the reasoning behind it. Dr. Rob explains that the way we feel as a child is how we treat our spouses when we grow up. So, if we felt unworthy of love, unseen, or completely ignored, we will do the same to those that are closest to us.   TAKEAWAYS: [1:05] I’m trying to meet a long-term partner on an online dating app and they’re more interested in hookup culture. What can I do as a bisexual man? [6:20] My addict wants ME to find him a therapist. What’s up with that? [9:50] I am so kind to him and help him out when he needs it, and he keeps lying to me. What are my next steps? [18:00] I am sober but I fail with empathy and honesty. Is this part of my childhood trauma? [23:20] People who get what they needed when they’re kids don’t struggle with the types of problems we, as addicts, struggle with. [25:10] People cycle through the same patterns they learned as a child.   RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss