Reminder: clothes are supposed to fit you, not the other way around.   In this week's episode of the Fat Murder Podcast, co-coach, Steph Miramontes and I talk about the "Goldilocks wardobe" and why it's important to stop romanticizing smaller clothes and the life you anticipate in them.   We're not suggesting that there's anything inherently wrong with wanting to be in a smaller body if that's your goal, but when you look at your true motivators, do you like your reasons? What are you expecting to change? Who are you changing for? How will your life be different when you lose 10 pounds? Is it possible that you don't need to wait until you're a size 4 to be happy? Happiness is not a size. It's a mindset. BUT, through diet culture, we've learned how to disconnect from our bodies and lose trust in its language.   We hold on to our pre-baby wardrobe, idolizing and anticipating what life would be like when we get back into our college jeans.   And on the opposite side of that, we shamefully hang on to our "big girl" clothes just in case we "fall off the wagon" again.   Both messages keep us struggling. Both messages communicate, "you can't be trusted."   And both messages communicate, the love you have for your body is conditional. Nice, new clothes are reserved for a smaller body -- one that is more deserving of kindness and respect.   But is that true? And how is this belief system helping you?   So much of our emotional eating is rooted in escaping negative thoughts about our bodies and what we make clothing sizes mean about us. But what if you were stranded alone on an island...would this still be a problem of yours?    Join Steph and I as we dig into this complex topic.   Connect with Leslie: Website Instagram Facebook If you’re struggling with emotional, binge, or compulsive eating and you’re interested in personalized coaching, apply here. If you want to learn how to not-only lose weight, but lose the struggle along side it, get my free guide — Lose the Diet, Gain a Life. I'll show you how to drop unwanted pounds without ever having to diet again. Go to lesliehooper.com for the guide.