Social Confidence: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Assertiveness, Self-Confidence, Personality Development & Social Skills
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ASSERTIVENESS:
7 Easy Steps to Master Assertive Social Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness & Social Dynamics.
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- Boundaries not only keep you healthy
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Social Confidence - Lawrence Finnegan
Social Confidence
3 Manuscripts in 1 Book, Including: Assertiveness, Conversation Skills and Make People Laugh
Lawrence Finnegan
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Book 1: Body Language
Book 2: Assertiveness
Book 3: Conversation Skills
Book 4: Persuasion
Book 5: Make People Laugh
Book 6: Small Talk
Book 7: Social Skills
Book 8: Email Etiquette
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Table of Contents
Social Confidence
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Copyright
Table of Contents
Book 1: Assertiveness
Table of Contents
Book 2: Conversation Skills
Table of Contents
Book 3: Make People Laugh
Table of Contents
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Book 1: Assertiveness
7 Easy Steps to Master Assertive Social Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness & Social Dynamics
Lawrence Finnegan
Table of Contents
Social Confidence
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Copyright
Table of Contents
Book 1: Assertiveness
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Step 1 - Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries
Know Core, Know Boundaries
No Core, No Boundaries
Self-Control
Chapter 2: Step 2 - Confidence
Preparing
Eye Contact
Speak Up!
Articulation
Animated
Balance
Chapter 3: Step 3 - Prepare
Research
Rehearse
Audience Knowledge
To Be or Not to Be
Chapter 4: Step 4 - Stay on Task
Emotional Intelligence
Control
Focus
Chapter 5: Step 5 - Active Listening
Me, Myself, and Eye
Body Language
Restate
Empathy
Chapter 6: Step 6 - Validate Others' Feelings
Validating People
Do Not Be Manipulated
Appeal to People’s Better Halves
Do They Have a Point?
Chapter 7: Step 7 - Compromise
Choice, Options and Feedback
Illusion of Choice
Stronger Together
Conclusion
Book 2: Conversation Skills
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Step 1 - Engagement
Be Approachable
Setting
Smile
Empathy
Kindness
Mirroring
Composure
Chapter 2: Step 2 - Active Listening
Eye Contact
Let Them Talk
Body Language
Touch is Touchy
Back and Forth
Summarize
Chapter 3: Step 3 - Small Talk
Opinions
Open-Ended Questions
Processing or Problem-Solving?
Cognitive Bias
Conversation Piece
Interest Groups
Chapter 4: Step 4 - Know Your Audience
Locality
Cold Reads
Analytics and Data
One Of Us!
Monitor Feedback
Chapter 5: Step 5 - Reflecting & Difficult Conversations
Update and Adjust
Nobody Thinks About You the Way You Think About You
Feedback
Self-Reflection
Don’t Overthink It
Difficult Discussions
Chapter 6: Step 6 - Practice Alone
Multimedia
Limits and Dangers
Chapter 7: Step 7 - Educate and Enrich Yourself
Talk!
It’s Not What You Know; It’s Who You Know
Seriously, Just Go Up and Say 'Hi.'
Beyond Books
Conclusion
Book 3: Make People Laugh
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Step 1 - Know Your Audience
Intentional Comedy
Children
Teens
Young Adults & Adults
Middle Age
Seniors
Beyond Age
Chapter 2: Step 2 - Find a Funny Feeling
Research
No, Really, Just Be Funny
Timing Is Everything
No Rules
OK, Maybe One Rule
Common Ground
Why You Can’t Explain a Joke
Last Laugh
Chapter 3: Step 3 - Try It Out
Social Grease
Clubs and Open Mic
Dying
Casual Setting
Improvisation
Chapter 4: Step 4 - Get Used to Word Play
Puns, Jokes and Classic Humor
Punny!
Have a Joke at the Ready
Absurdist and Non-Sequitur
Mimicry, Funny Sounds, and Silence
Timeless or Topical
Set-Up and Punchline
Chapter 5: Step 5 - Explore Physical Humor
Slapstick & Prat Falls
Learn to Fall
Costumes & Looking Funny
Props & The Bag of Tricks
Non-Verbal
Face
Slow Down
Chapter 6: Step 6 - Conversational Humor
Avoid Canned Humor
What’s So Funny?
Surprising Contrasts, Obvious Errors, and Comedic Truth
The Funny One
The Try-Hard
Thought-Emotion-Action
Joy
Chapter 7: Step 7 - Slam!
F*ck Off, Friend!
Love And Hate
Still Basic, Still Unexpected
Hecklers
One In Ten Rule
Pump The Breaks
Conclusion
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Introduction
Welcome to Assertiveness
. This guide is for people at all skill levels in this ability, whether you are a shrinking violet who can barely speak up in group settings or a sharp-talking hotshot already in command of social situations. There are tips you have not tried, aspects of interpersonal communication you have not considered, and lessons to learn. Operating under the assumption that you want to learn how to persuade and convince at most or inspire and motivate at least, we break down exactly what it takes to be assertive in the Information Age.
We will go through seven easy exercises you can practice to be more assertive. The career advancement and personal enrichment gained by asserting yourself more is almost beside the point: baseline mental health. Far from being reserved for influential leaders or exploited by arrogant people, assertiveness is necessary for a healthy and balanced personality. Because at the very least, you need a tiny bit to feel safe, confident, and comfortable even in small groups.
Using a little biology and psychology as we go along, I use science and research wherever possible to back up these techniques with facts. You won't have to take my word for anything, nor should you: a large part of asserting yourself efficiently is credibility. Gone are the days we wave our hand at a persuasive individual and say they just have charisma.
It is nothing special; no inherent knack someone is born with. We now know precisely what a compelling, influential person does to shine. Our understanding of the human mind and universal social drives allow us to assert our will with force and grace.
Self-esteem, self-worth, and getting anywhere in life demand you assert your will at least a little. Often, the prize goes not to the best or the brightest but to the one who spoke up and stepped forward. Stop letting the extroverted or opinionated lead by default and no more allowing someone with more social confidence to call the shots simply because no one else did. Learn how to lead the conversation without taking all the air out of it.
Master the art of facilitating, not issuing orders, by simple actions and basic behaviors in any group. Defuse hotheads, coax activity from the reticent and, at the very least, make sure you are not ignored. Wolf packs in the wild are led by an equal mated pair, the myth of the Alpha Wolf a construct of narcissism and arrogance. Be the invisible leader, guiding others toward objectives you offered or a radiant beacon, leading the way through example and trust.
There is quite simply no aspect of life not improved by learning how to exert your will in a meaningful and polite manner. So, take a few moments to consider your place in social situations as we take a deep dive into the complex and nuanced world of assertiveness.
Let’s get started!
Chapter 1: Step 1 - Healthy Boundaries
Asserting yourself has one key component that we must consider as we make our way through this project. First and foremost, a firm accounting of our personal boundaries protects against manipulation by others and us accidentally manipulating people. A blanket term for our personal space, belief system and emotional needs, establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries also ensures a solid work/life balance and we are not burning ourselves out. We have to place limits on our give and take, or we wind up exhausted at best or taken advantage of at worst.
Boundaries
Individuals have the obvious physical boundaries, our sense of personal space and how much of that space we want to share with another. We have mental barriers, emotional and intellectual, which we develop to make sure we are not jerked around or manipulated. Sexual desires and varying levels of intimacy help us pair-bond and we draw distinct and important boundaries around our love lives. Many of us have religious or spiritual boundaries, an ethos or philosophy we use to inspire and guide us. If you lack monetary and material boundaries, then you are either independently wealthy or chronically cash strapped. We can place limitations on our time, romantic interests and anything, really, as long we express these limits early and often.
We have the right to assert our needs without feeling bad about it. It should go without saying that this needs to be done in a respectful way. You can ask for the moon as long as you do so with a smile and expectation that it will be refused; you are ready to handle a No with good cheer but still asked! They know your intent. Should the moon become available, they will know you are interested.
Assertiveness and aggression not the same things.
Neither are assertiveness and persuasion. While there is plenty of overlap between asserting yourself and persuading someone else, there is virtually no point where you have to resort to aggression. If putting up or maintaining boundaries if difficult for you, this lesson is one of learning how to stand up for yourself, if less exerting your will. If you have too many walls in place already, this lesson is one in tearing down and letting in. As ever, there is a fine balance to be achieved in maintaining a social equilibrium between going with the flow
and sticking to your guns
.
In our personal lives, ill-defined or undefended boundaries can look like friends coming over unannounced- if you don’t like that; some people enjoy unexpected guests! It can look like someone over extended and exhausted because they never learned to say No or lazy and unfulfilled because they never learned to say Yes. We can do an awful lot toward ensuring these crucial personal defenses are strong if