Self-Awareness: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Shadow Work, Facial Expressions, Self-Love & How to Be Charismatic

By Lawrence Finnegan

Self-Awareness - 3 Manuscripts in 1 Book, Including: Body Language, Social Skills and Assertivenes.

 

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BODY LANGUAGE:

7 Easy Steps to Master Nonverbal Communication, Reading People, Microexpressions & Improve Your Charisma.

 

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Lawrence Finnegan
• Release date: Jul 14, 2023
• ISBN: 9781088210345

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Self-Awareness

3 Manuscripts in 1 Book, Including: Body Language, Social Skills and Assertivenes

Lawrence Finnegan

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Book 4: Persuasion

Book 5: Make People Laugh

Book 6: Small Talk

Book 7: Social Skills

Book 8: Email Etiquette

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Table of Contents

Self-Awareness

More by Lawrence Finnegan

Copyright

Table of Contents

Book 1: Body Language

Table of Contents

Book 2: Social Skills

Table of Contents

Book 3: Assertiveness

Table of Contents

More by Lawrence Finnegan

Book 1: Body Language

7 Easy Steps to Master Nonverbal Communication, Reading People, Microexpressions & Improve Your Charisma

Lawrence Finnegan

Table of Contents

Self-Awareness

More by Lawrence Finnegan

Copyright

Table of Contents

Book 1: Body Language

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Define Your Terms

A Code with No Key

Locality and Timing

Take Control

Moderation

Reflection

You Feel Me?

With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility

Cognitive Divergence

Chapter 2: Step 2 - Face & Posture

The Smile

Train Your Brain

Eyes, Brow, Chin, and Jaw

Cosmetic Interventions

Posture

Commanding Strides and Piercing Gazes

Chapter 3: Step 3 - Eye Contact

Novice, Practiced or Master

Seeing Eye to Eye

Embellishments

Know Your Audience

Chapter 4: Step 4 - Gestures and Personal Space

Where Do You Stand?

Professional versus Casual

Hand Wave It Away, Jazz Hands and Itchy Fingers

Gesture to Learn

Hands and Proximity

Let’s Get in Touch

Chapter 5: Step 5 - Touch

No Touch!

Unless…

Careful, I’m a Hugger!

Your Body, Your Choice

Vulnerable and Non-vulnerable

Non-Vulnerable

The Reality

Chapter 6: Step 6 - Voice

Intonation

Pitch

Speed

Facial Expression

Articulate, Enunciate and Project!

Chapter 7: Step 7 - Beyond Communication

Differently Abled

Keepin’ It Real

Subtle but Tangible

Conclusion

Book 2: Social Skills

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Work on You

Balance and Reciprocity

Basic Self Care

Drives and Motivations

Acquaintance, Friend or Lover

Date Yourself

Chapter 2: Step 2 - Understand Them

There Is No THEM

What Do You Stand For?

Demographics Vs. Individuals

Why Are They Here?

Follow Your Bliss

Scenes, Haunts & Social Locale

Beyond the Bar

Express Yourself

Chapter 3: Step 3 - Make Small Talk Big

Just Do It

Ice Breaker

Keep It Going

Break Away

Chapter 4: Step 4 - Make New Friends

Take a Chance on Me

Just Friendship

There Is No Friend Zone

Hello, I Must Be Going

When to Call

Know No

Be a Friend

Help or Hinder?

Chapter 5: Step 5 - Keep Friends

Get In Touch

Shake the Family Tree

Besties

Make New Friends but Keep the Old

Forged In Fire or Bonded Over Time

Quick Tips

Be a Friend

Chapter 6: Step 6 - Go Deep

Observe, Consider and Decide

Run Toward Danger

Deconstruction

Complaining

Philosophy, Religion, and Spirituality

Existential Dread

Enrich, Explore and Enliven

Break It Down

Chapter 7: Step 7 - Build Strong Relationships

Go, See and Do

Take a Back Seat

Acceptance

Space and Boundaries

Accountability

If They Hit You, They Do Not Love You

Beyond Self Care: Self-Help

Nurture Your Nature

Conclusion

Book 3: Assertiveness

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries

Know Core, Know Boundaries

No Core, No Boundaries

Self-Control

Chapter 2: Step 2 - Confidence

Preparing

Eye Contact

Speak Up!

Articulation

Animated

Balance

Chapter 3: Step 3 - Prepare

Research

Rehearse

Audience Knowledge

To Be or Not to Be

Chapter 4: Step 4 - Stay on Task

Emotional Intelligence

Control

Focus

Chapter 5: Step 5 - Active Listening

Me, Myself, and Eye

Body Language

Restate

Empathy

Chapter 6: Step 6 - Validate Others' Feelings

Validating People

Do Not Be Manipulated

Appeal to People’s Better Halves

Do They Have a Point?

Chapter 7: Step 7 - Compromise

Choice, Options and Feedback

Illusion of Choice

Stronger Together

Conclusion

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Introduction

Welcome to Body Language. In this guide we will tackle the intricacies of everything you're saying when you're not saying anything at all.

If you feel your body language conveys one thing and your words another, you have come to the right place. Should you simply wish to enhance an average demeanor into a charismatic one or take your already congenial nature to soar radiant new heights, then welcome. Even if you are simply curious and want to understand the details of something few ever think about in a systematic, formal way, we have something for you. 

Non-verbal communication accounts for as much as 2/3 of the information we receive from other people. We convey so much through gesture, stature, tone, and facial expression, both conscious and unconscious, that not taking it all into account when you need to be understood and persuasive is giving yourself a handicap. We evolved for millions of years with no language at all, and most of those unspoken cues are still hardwired into our very cores. While life experience will undoubtedly give some variety to the rules laid out further on, most of this stuff is so ingrained in the human experience that deviating from it looks strange and feels uncomfortable.

Modern life looked like it was going back to written correspondences with the creation of emails and text messages, but almost as soon as we began communicating electronically, we found ways to send images and express nonverbal intention—even text messaging developed Emoji to give facial expressions to written words. Emojis were actually rediscovered because monks scribing manuscripts in the age before the printing press would occasionally insert emoji-like faces to denote humor or irony. 

Effective speaking relies on a powerful voice, but far more of charisma is not in words themselves but the delivery. The world-famous speakers use smaller words to reach a larger audience, relying on their tone, gestures, and body language to convey strong passion, intensity and subtext as much as skillful use of that limited vocabulary. Powerful public speakers are easier to find than spoken word artists alone, the naked voice requiring a singer or actor’s training to do what a human body and words together can do.

You can find good and bad examples of people who excelled in the field of Public Speaking and became rich, famous, or influential because of it. Sometimes, fortunes are made, empires built, and the is world shaken, all by someone with almost nothing to offer but their way with words.

You understand that it wasn’t their words alone, right?

As you go through this guide, we will be going over specific features of unspoken communication, and as we do so, I really want you to think about how you express these actions, inactions, and movements. So much of what we'll discuss further on is unthinking, automatic pilot stuff that it can be beneficial to reflect on past behavior or ask those closest to us. I stopped just short of assigning homework, as most of this can only be practiced in real life. 

If some of this stuff just feels weird, don't worry. Fake it till you make it works just fine in confidence and social interactions, so push through it, and soon enough, you won't be faking anything.

Let’s get started!

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Define Your Terms

The study of non-verbal communication is deep and wide, with many different disciplines studying human behavior for various reasons. I'll be teaching you the technical terms, but part of good communication is not intentionally throwing words at people they don't know.

Advertisers analyze posture and facial expression in impact studies even more than the participant notes. Salespeople learn the fundamentals of Appearance and The Approach before anything else; you never see a disheveled salesperson for a reason. Dating advice almost always begins with body language and other non-verbal tips, with what you say far less important than how you say it. There is not a single facet of interpersonal communication that doesn't benefit from a little focused study on decoding and encoding human behavior with meaning.

When scientists and researchers look at how humans send and receive information along non-verbal channels, they start using the terms Encode and Decode.

A Code with No Key

Very much the way you might imagine, code is the keyword here. Clinical study and formal observation have proven what most of us intuit as teens: you can tell a whole lot about a person's attitude by the way they carry themselves, and what someone says versus what someone does is often wildly in opposition. We're not even talking about intentional deception, here, just the regular expression of the mind-body connection.

It is essential to know this is not usually an intentional code but an unthinking, automatic cipher: for the most part, people aren't intentionally hiding information in their demeanor. We are talking about unconscious movements, instinctual behaviors, and actions that we don't even think about- at least until right now! Making sure we’re not encoding confusing information is one of the reasons mediation and relaxation are so important in the modern age. 

Encoding is when we send information through our face, posture, gestures, and tone. It is all done on the fly, intuitively, and usually without thinking. To a large degree, this is the kind of activity that makes us look at great apes with empathy. We still share some of the brain and nervous system activity with social primates. The chest-beating, bonding, and feuds resemble human family groups so much it can be tempting to continue drawing comparisons. But make no mistake: our big brain and social norms