First Impressions: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Small Talk, Assertive Communication Skills, Introductions & Make Friends
()
About this ebook
First Impressions - 3 Manuscripts in 1 Book, Including: Small Talk, Assertiveness and Body Language.
1)
SMALL TALK:
7 Easy Steps to Master First Impressions, Talking to Strangers, Personal Networking & Social Anxiety.
YOU'LL LEARN:
Read more from Lawrence Finnegan
Social Skills: 7 Easy Steps to Master Emotional Intelligence, Making Friends, Relationship Building & Interpersonal Skills Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsPersuasion: 7 Easy Steps to Master Influence Skills, Psychology of Manipulation, Convincing People & Negotiation Skills Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsConversation Skills: 7 Easy Steps to Master Listening Skills, Interpersonal Feedback, Difficult Conversations & Voice Training Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Related to First Impressions
Titles in the series (21)
Small Talk: 7 Easy Steps to Master First Impressions, Talking to Strangers, Personal Networking & Social Anxiety Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsBody Language: 7 Easy Steps to Master Nonverbal Communication, Reading People, Microexpressions & Improve Your Charisma Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMake People Laugh: 7 Easy Steps to Master Being Funny, Conversational Humor, Improv Stand-Up Comedy & Joke Writing Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsAssertiveness: 7 Easy Steps to Master Assertive Social Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness & Social Dynamics Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsNonverbal Communication: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Reading Body Language, Nonverbal Cues, Mind Reading & Lie Detection Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEmail Etiquette: 7 Easy Steps to Master Email Writing, Business Etiquette, Email Productivity Hacks & Remote Teams Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsBeing Funny: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Your Sense of Humor, Conversational Jokes, Comedy Writing & Make People Laugh Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSocial Confidence: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Assertiveness, Self-Confidence, Personality Development & Social Skills Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsInfluence Skills: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Influential Leadership, Persuasive Negotiation & Manipulation Techniques Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsListening Skills: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Active Listening, Soft Skills, Interpersonal Communication & How to Listen Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMaking Friends: 3-in-1 Guide to Master People Skills, Social Intelligence, Personality Development, Human Design & Charisma Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEmotional Intelligence: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Self-Awareness, Conflict Management, How to Overcome Fear & Anxiety Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFirst Impressions: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Small Talk, Assertive Communication Skills, Introductions & Make Friends Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEmail Writing: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Email Etiquette, Business Communication Skills & Professional Email Writing Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSelf-Awareness: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Shadow Work, Facial Expressions, Self-Love & How to Be Charismatic Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsInterpersonal Feedback: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Constructive Feedback, Active Listening, Receiving & Giving Feedback Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSelf-Esteem: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Assertive Communication, Confidence Building & How to Raise Your Self Esteem Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsStand-Up Comedy: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Writing Jokes, Improv Sketch Comedy, Learn Humor Writing & How to Be Funny Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsTalking to Strangers: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Personal Networking, Conversation Starters & How to Talk to Anyone Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Related ebooks
Talking to Strangers: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Personal Networking, Conversation Starters & How to Talk to Anyone Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSmall Talk: 7 Easy Steps to Master First Impressions, Talking to Strangers, Personal Networking & Social Anxiety Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsListening Skills: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Active Listening, Soft Skills, Interpersonal Communication & How to Listen Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsInterpersonal Feedback: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Constructive Feedback, Active Listening, Receiving & Giving Feedback Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEmotional Intelligence: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Self-Awareness, Conflict Management, How to Overcome Fear & Anxiety Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsNonverbal Communication: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Reading Body Language, Nonverbal Cues, Mind Reading & Lie Detection Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSelf-Awareness: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Shadow Work, Facial Expressions, Self-Love & How to Be Charismatic Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsBody Language: 7 Easy Steps to Master Nonverbal Communication, Reading People, Microexpressions & Improve Your Charisma Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMaking Friends: 3-in-1 Guide to Master People Skills, Social Intelligence, Personality Development, Human Design & Charisma Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSocial Confidence: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Assertiveness, Self-Confidence, Personality Development & Social Skills Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsBeing Funny: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Your Sense of Humor, Conversational Jokes, Comedy Writing & Make People Laugh Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSelf-Esteem: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Assertive Communication, Confidence Building & How to Raise Your Self Esteem Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsStand-Up Comedy: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Writing Jokes, Improv Sketch Comedy, Learn Humor Writing & How to Be Funny Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsAssertiveness: 7 Easy Steps to Master Assertive Social Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness & Social Dynamics Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Power of E.Q.:: Social Intelligence, Reading People, and How to Navigate Any Situation Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsInfluence Skills: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Influential Leadership, Persuasive Negotiation & Manipulation Techniques Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsInstant Communication Skills: How to Improve Communications Skills Instantly! Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Communication Secrets: How To Be Your Best Self And Build Fruitful And Lasting Relationships With Others Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsJust Me, Just You: An Intimate Novellete Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSmall Talk Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMindful Listening: How To Be Present, Intentional, and Empathetic Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHow to Avoid Manipulation: Is Not to Become a Puppet: Manipulate People, Mind Control, Selfishness, Energy Vampires, Narcissist Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsPeople Skills: A Simple Guide to Reading People, Mastering Small Talk, and Getting People to Like You Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Deception Tips: 101 Cues To Detecting Deception Revised And Expanded: Deception Tips, #2 Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsUltimate Magnetic Personality of Confident Leaders Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Self-Improvement For You
A Stolen Life: A Memoir Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Don't Believe Everything You Think: Why Your Thinking Is The Beginning & End Of Suffering Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Four Loves Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Big Book of 30-Day Challenges: 60 Habit-Forming Programs to Live an Infinitely Better Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Self-Care for People with ADHD: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Prioritize You! Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Win Friends and Influence People: Updated For the Next Generation of Leaders Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Think and Grow Rich (Illustrated Edition): With linked Table of Contents Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Wild at Heart Expanded Edition: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How May I Serve Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Art of Witty Banter: Be Clever, Quick, & Magnetic Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Mastery of Self: A Toltec Guide to Personal Freedom Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Chop Wood Carry Water: How to Fall In Love With the Process of Becoming Great Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Less Fret, More Faith: An 11-Week Action Plan to Overcome Anxiety Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Organizing for the Rest of Us: 100 Realistic Strategies to Keep Any House Under Control Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5You're Not Dying You're Just Waking Up Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5
Reviews for First Impressions
0 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
First Impressions - Lawrence Finnegan
First Impressions
3 Manuscripts in 1 Book, Including: Small Talk, Assertiveness and Body Language
Lawrence Finnegan
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Discover all books from the Communication Skills Series by Lawrence Finnegan at:
bit.ly/lawrence-finnegan
Book 1: Body Language
Book 2: Assertiveness
Book 3: Conversation Skills
Book 4: Persuasion
Book 5: Make People Laugh
Book 6: Small Talk
Book 7: Social Skills
Book 8: Email Etiquette
Themed book bundles available at discounted prices:
bit.ly/lawrence-finnegan
Copyright
© Copyright by Lawrence Finnegan. All rights reserved.
This document is geared towards providing exact and reliable information in regard to the topic and issue covered. The publication is sold with the idea that the publisher is not required to render accounting, officially permitted, or otherwise, qualified services. If advice is necessary, legal or professional, a practiced individual in the profession should be ordered.
From a Declaration of Principles which was accepted and approved equally by a Committee of the American Bar Association and a Committee of Publishers and Associations.
In no way is it legal to reproduce, duplicate, or transmit any part of this document in either electronic means or in printed format. Recording of this publication is strictly prohibited and any storage of this document is not allowed unless with written permission from the publisher. All rights reserved.
The information provided herein is stated to be truthful and consistent, in that any liability, in terms of inattention or otherwise, by any usage or abuse of any policies, processes, or directions contained within is the solitary and utter responsibility of the recipient reader. Under no circumstances will any legal responsibility or blame be held against the publisher for any reparation, damages, or monetary loss due to the information herein, either directly or indirectly.
Respective authors own all copyrights not held by the publisher.
The information herein is offered for informational purposes solely, and is universal as so. The presentation of the information is without contract or any type of guaranteed assurance.
The trademarks that are used are without any consent, and the publication of the trademark is without permission or backing by the trademark owner. All trademarks and brands within this book are for clarifying purposes only and are the owned by the owners themselves, not affiliated with this document.
Table of Contents
First Impressions
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Copyright
Table of Contents
Book 1: Small Talk
Table of Contents
Book 2: Assertiveness
Table of Contents
Book 3: Body Language
Table of Contents
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Book 1: Small Talk
7 Easy Steps to Master First Impressions, Talking to Strangers, Personal Networking & Social Anxiety
Lawrence Finnegan
Table of Contents
First Impressions
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Copyright
Table of Contents
Book 1: Small Talk
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Step 1 - You Have to Loosen Up
Be Approachable
Introductions
Remember Names
Beyond the Bar
Location, Location, Location
Chapter 2: Step 2 - Observe Banter Basics
Open-Ended Questions
Draw the Person Out; Ask Them about Themselves
Read the Room
Let It Go
Research
Chatty Cathy and Talkative Ted
Push Through
Nobody Thinks about You the Way You Think About You
Chapter 3: Step 3 - Actively Listen
Pay Attention
Remember Names
Non-verbal Communication
American English Has Tonal Components
Eye-Contact, Posture, and Feedback
Slow Down
No, Really, Slow Down
Chapter 4: Step 4 - Keep Them Laughing
Intentional Versus Conversational Laughter
Science of Laughter
Ha Ha Handy
Practice
One Rule
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Chapter 5: Step 5 - Embrace the Fail
Foot-In-Mouth Disease
More Fun with Science
Pain and Embarrassment
It Is Not a Contest
...But Maybe It Sometimes Is a Little Bit?
Own It
No, You’re Right!
Chapter 6: Step 6 - Learn How to Talk to Personality Types
Personality Tests
Are Wrong
Introvert/Extrovert
Emotional/Practical
Pop/Fringe
Creative/Passive
Cross a Threshold
Be That Guy/Girl
If You Have To
Chapter 7: Step 7 - Memorize A Few Basics
Openers
Middle
Break Away
Improvisation
Conclusion
Book 2: Assertiveness
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Step 1 - Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries
Know Core, Know Boundaries
No Core, No Boundaries
Self-Control
Chapter 2: Step 2 - Confidence
Preparing
Eye Contact
Speak Up!
Articulation
Animated
Balance
Chapter 3: Step 3 - Prepare
Research
Rehearse
Audience Knowledge
To Be or Not to Be
Chapter 4: Step 4 - Stay on Task
Emotional Intelligence
Control
Focus
Chapter 5: Step 5 - Active Listening
Me, Myself, and Eye
Body Language
Restate
Empathy
Chapter 6: Step 6 - Validate Others' Feelings
Validating People
Do Not Be Manipulated
Appeal to People’s Better Halves
Do They Have a Point?
Chapter 7: Step 7 - Compromise
Choice, Options and Feedback
Illusion of Choice
Stronger Together
Conclusion
Book 3: Body Language
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Step 1 - Define Your Terms
A Code with No Key
Locality and Timing
Take Control
Moderation
Reflection
You Feel Me?
With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility
Cognitive Divergence
Chapter 2: Step 2 - Face & Posture
The Smile
Train Your Brain
Eyes, Brow, Chin, and Jaw
Cosmetic Interventions
Posture
Commanding Strides and Piercing Gazes
Chapter 3: Step 3 - Eye Contact
Novice, Practiced or Master
Seeing Eye to Eye
Embellishments
Know Your Audience
Chapter 4: Step 4 - Gestures and Personal Space
Where Do You Stand?
Professional versus Casual
Hand Wave It Away, Jazz Hands and Itchy Fingers
Gesture to Learn
Hands and Proximity
Let’s Get in Touch
Chapter 5: Step 5 - Touch
No Touch!
Unless…
Careful, I’m a Hugger!
Your Body, Your Choice
Vulnerable and Non-vulnerable
Non-Vulnerable
The Reality
Chapter 6: Step 6 - Voice
Intonation
Pitch
Speed
Facial Expression
Articulate, Enunciate and Project!
Chapter 7: Step 7 - Beyond Communication
Differently Abled
Keepin’ It Real
Subtle but Tangible
Conclusion
More by Lawrence Finnegan
Introduction
Welcome to Small Talk
. Chitchat. Hobnob. Mingle and yakkity-yak. The words we use for small talk tend toward the big, and it’s easy to think that is for the massive impact such a seemingly minor thing can have.
Whether you are a wallflower tired of not being engaged or a silver-tongued raconteur looking to improve your A-game, you have come to the right place. There's no great mystery behind Chatty Kathy or Talkative Ted. Charisma and candor, wit, and insight are all yours for the learning. All you have to do is open your mouth and let the words tumble out. This guide would be a leaflet if it were indeed that easy, but there is surprising complexity at play in even small conversations. Join me now as we take a deep dive into the diverse world of superficial conversation.
Superficial has, rightfully, a negative connotation. We need complex, insightful answers, not trite platitudes. On the other hand, first impressions are undeniably crucial, and there is a lot of meaningful information you can encode in only a few words. Encoding is the social anthropology word for information we pass through non-verbal and symbolic channels. Learning how to identify and adjust our messaging in areas most folks never even think about will give you a leg up. As we take a close look at seemingly idle discourse, we discover that, just like your skin is the largest organ of your body, surface chatter compromises most of our talking.
Let's learn to speak the unspoken, shine light into otherwise dark corners of our behavior and take a meaningful look at what we shall see is not meaningless chatter.
Let’s get started!
Chapter 1: Step 1 - You Have to Loosen Up
The first thing you have to do is relax. I don't mean stress, tension, and worry, though you certainly have to check those too. If you are going to get the most out of small talk, you have to loosen your filter. The safe topics
of the past are modern-day minefields, and many of the previous generations' no-fly zones are no longer the conversational ice they used to be. At the very least, you should feel free to make connections, state your point of view and accept the diverse range of your fellow humans, too.
Beware of being too loose, however. Some of us are over-sharers, and in our case, the advice is not to lighten up but tighten up
and zip it. Nobody likes it when one person sucks all the air out of the conversation or dumps a bunch of emotional baggage in your lap first thing. Loosen up can mean not carrying the stress and burden of your aggravations into polite conversation. Yes, you want to appear relaxed, but you also want to adopt a casual attitude.
Be Approachable
Appear to be someone with whom it might be fun to talk. Attractiveness is a lot less about physical beauty, clothes, makeup, and hair than most people think. Physical beauty is not as crucial to a magnetic personality as we have been led to believe. You can be dressed to kill and still come off as a dead fish unless you know how to entertain someone's attention once you have it. Your disparate education levels, class, or social background won't matter if you can capture someone's attention and keep it.
Unfold your arms, keep your hands out of your pockets but be casual. What to do with your hands
is widespread anxiety, and while the general rule of thumb is to use them to gesture and express, you can only do that so much before it becomes distracting. Unless you are Italian, then you can use your hands all the time. I would say, haha, but I know too many Italians who enthusiastically embrace that trait to say it's humor! As such, as long as you make regular gesticulation a part of your demeanor, nobody will think twice about it.
Keep Your Phone Out of Your Hands!
Not allowing yourself to be distracted cannot be stressed enough. At the very least, excuse yourself to answer a pressing text or call. Do not take the when in Rome
approach and begin twiddling your device if you see others doing it, either. Be the change you want to see in the world and engage! Teams of specialists design those things to be as addictive as possible. You are going through a guide about making small talk, for Pete's sake.
Add special dings and rings for clients, lovers, and family, or otherwise set up custom alerts so you don't miss something but otherwise set it to silent.
Grooming
You don’t need to be 100% all the time. High Maintenance has become a negative, and hours in front of the mirror every day is a little much. But you can’t stink or wear rages, either.
The absolute need to wear a suit has all but evaporated in all but business and formal settings, so as long as your clothes are clean and reasonably appropriate, all you really need to wear to be approachable is a smile.
Do not over-apply if you like scents, for the love of all that is holy dash or drop. A smell should be subtle and not linger.
Simply a sense of being well put together is enough. Don't mix patterns; use color and accent pieces to express yourself if you are not already. Sometimes conversations are started with Love the shirt
or similar pleasantries.
Social Not Sexual
Flirting and initiating conversation with people you are romantically attracted to in general can be difficult for many. The bright side is that you can use