Self-Esteem: 3-in-1 Guide to Master Assertive Communication, Confidence Building & How to Raise Your Self Esteem

By Lawrence Finnegan

Self-Esteem - 3 Manuscripts in 1 Book, Including: Assertiveness, Social Skills and Persuasion.

 

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ASSERTIVENESS:

7 Easy Steps to Master Assertive Social Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness & Social Dynamics.

 

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• Boundaries not only keep you healthy but are crucial to

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lawrence Finnegan
• Release date: Jul 16, 2023
• ISBN: 9781088187432

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Self-Esteem

3 Manuscripts in 1 Book, Including: Assertiveness, Social Skills and Persuasion

Lawrence Finnegan

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Book 1: Body Language

Book 2: Assertiveness

Book 3: Conversation Skills

Book 4: Persuasion

Book 5: Make People Laugh

Book 6: Small Talk

Book 7: Social Skills

Book 8: Email Etiquette

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Table of Contents

Self-Esteem

More by Lawrence Finnegan

Copyright

Table of Contents

Book 1: Assertiveness

Table of Contents

Book 2: Social Skills

Table of Contents

Book 3: Persuasion

Table of Contents

More by Lawrence Finnegan

Book 1: Assertiveness

7 Easy Steps to Master Assertive Social Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Awareness & Social Dynamics

Lawrence Finnegan

Table of Contents

Self-Esteem

More by Lawrence Finnegan

Copyright

Table of Contents

Book 1: Assertiveness

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries

Know Core, Know Boundaries

No Core, No Boundaries

Self-Control

Chapter 2: Step 2 - Confidence

Preparing

Eye Contact

Speak Up!

Articulation

Animated

Balance

Chapter 3: Step 3 - Prepare

Research

Rehearse

Audience Knowledge

To Be or Not to Be

Chapter 4: Step 4 - Stay on Task

Emotional Intelligence

Control

Focus

Chapter 5: Step 5 - Active Listening

Me, Myself, and Eye

Body Language

Restate

Empathy

Chapter 6: Step 6 - Validate Others' Feelings

Validating People

Do Not Be Manipulated

Appeal to People’s Better Halves

Do They Have a Point?

Chapter 7: Step 7 - Compromise

Choice, Options and Feedback

Illusion of Choice

Stronger Together

Conclusion

Book 2: Social Skills

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Work on You

Balance and Reciprocity

Basic Self Care

Drives and Motivations

Acquaintance, Friend or Lover

Date Yourself

Chapter 2: Step 2 - Understand Them

There Is No THEM

What Do You Stand For?

Demographics Vs. Individuals

Why Are They Here?

Follow Your Bliss

Scenes, Haunts & Social Locale

Beyond the Bar

Express Yourself

Chapter 3: Step 3 - Make Small Talk Big

Just Do It

Ice Breaker

Keep It Going

Break Away

Chapter 4: Step 4 - Make New Friends

Take a Chance on Me

Just Friendship

There Is No Friend Zone

Hello, I Must Be Going

When to Call

Know No

Be a Friend

Help or Hinder?

Chapter 5: Step 5 - Keep Friends

Get In Touch

Shake the Family Tree

Besties

Make New Friends but Keep the Old

Forged In Fire or Bonded Over Time

Quick Tips

Be a Friend

Chapter 6: Step 6 - Go Deep

Observe, Consider and Decide

Run Toward Danger

Deconstruction

Complaining

Philosophy, Religion, and Spirituality

Existential Dread

Enrich, Explore and Enliven

Break It Down

Chapter 7: Step 7 - Build Strong Relationships

Go, See and Do

Take a Back Seat

Acceptance

Space and Boundaries

Accountability

If They Hit You, They Do Not Love You

Beyond Self Care: Self-Help

Nurture Your Nature

Conclusion

Book 3: Persuasion

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Be Confident

Take a Stand

Fake It ‘Till You Make It

Business Casual

What You Can Trash On

Knowledge Is Power

Earned or Assumed

Chapter 2: Step 2 - Work on Delivery

Happy

Multimedia

Fast or Slow Tempo

Reflect and Consider

Demographics

Do Not Pander

Adjust

Chapter 3: Step 3 - Find Mutual Benefit

Compromise Is Strength

Change Nothing but the Words

Framing

The Power of Capitulation

Reciprocity

Grounded

Chapter 4: Step 4 - Favor Logic & Reason

Reliable Sources

Trust

Credibility

Overthink

Intuition Is Not a Guess

Life Lessons

Chapter 5: Step 5 - Find Some Yes

Small Talk

Gift of Gab Deconstructed

Open-ended Openers

Agree With Valid Complaints

Not a Battle

Keep Your Cool

Chapter 6: Step 6 - Be Patient and Persistent

Stay Tuned In

Steer the Conversation

Losses Into Gains

Chapter 7: Step 7 - Be Amazing

Likable And Influential

Prerecord

Conclusion

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Introduction

Welcome to Assertiveness. This guide is for people at all skill levels in this ability, whether you are a shrinking violet who can barely speak up in group settings or a sharp-talking hotshot already in command of social situations. There are tips you have not tried, aspects of interpersonal communication you have not considered, and lessons to learn. Operating under the assumption that you want to learn how to persuade and convince at most or inspire and motivate at least, we break down exactly what it takes to be assertive in the Information Age.

We will go through seven easy exercises you can practice to be more assertive. The career advancement and personal enrichment gained by asserting yourself more is almost beside the point: baseline mental health. Far from being reserved for influential leaders or exploited by arrogant people, assertiveness is necessary for a healthy and balanced personality. Because at the very least, you need a tiny bit to feel safe, confident, and comfortable even in small groups.

Using a little biology and psychology as we go along, I use science and research wherever possible to back up these techniques with facts. You won't have to take my word for anything, nor should you: a large part of asserting yourself efficiently is credibility. Gone are the days we wave our hand at a persuasive individual and say they just have charisma. It is nothing special; no inherent knack someone is born with. We now know precisely what a compelling, influential person does to shine. Our understanding of the human mind and universal social drives allow us to assert our will with force and grace.

Self-esteem, self-worth, and getting anywhere in life demand you assert your will at least a little. Often, the prize goes not to the best or the brightest but to the one who spoke up and stepped forward. Stop letting the extroverted or opinionated lead by default and no more allowing someone with more social confidence to call the shots simply because no one else did. Learn how to lead the conversation without taking all the air out of it.

Master the art of facilitating, not issuing orders, by simple actions and basic behaviors in any group. Defuse hotheads, coax activity from the reticent and, at the very least, make sure you are not ignored. Wolf packs in the wild are led by an equal mated pair, the myth of the Alpha Wolf a construct of narcissism and arrogance. Be the invisible leader, guiding others toward objectives you offered or a radiant beacon, leading the way through example and trust.

There is quite simply no aspect of life not improved by learning how to exert your will in a meaningful and polite manner. So, take a few moments to consider your place in social situations as we take a deep dive into the complex and nuanced world of assertiveness.

Let’s get started!

Chapter 1: Step 1 - Healthy Boundaries

Asserting yourself has one key component that we must consider as we make our way through this project. First and foremost, a firm accounting of our personal boundaries protects against manipulation by others and us accidentally manipulating people. A blanket term for our personal space, belief system and emotional needs, establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries also ensures a solid work/life balance and we are not burning ourselves out. We have to place limits on our give and take, or we wind up exhausted at best or taken advantage of at worst.

Boundaries

Individuals have the obvious physical boundaries, our sense of personal space and how much of that space we want to share with another. We have mental barriers, emotional and intellectual, which we develop to make sure we are not jerked around or manipulated. Sexual desires and varying levels of intimacy help us pair-bond and we draw distinct and important boundaries around our love lives. Many of us have religious or spiritual boundaries, an ethos or philosophy we use to inspire and guide us. If you lack monetary and material boundaries, then you are either independently wealthy or chronically cash strapped. We can place limitations on our time, romantic interests and anything, really, as long we express these limits early and often.

We have the right to assert our needs without feeling bad about it. It should go without saying that this needs to be done in a respectful way. You can ask for the moon as long as you do so with a smile and expectation that it will be refused; you are ready to handle a No with good cheer but still asked! They know your intent. Should the moon become available, they will know you are interested.

Assertiveness and aggression not the same things.

Neither are assertiveness and persuasion. While there is plenty of overlap between asserting yourself and persuading someone else, there is virtually no point where you have to resort to aggression. If putting up or maintaining boundaries if difficult for you, this lesson is one of learning how to stand up for yourself, if less exerting your will. If you have too many walls in place already, this lesson is one in tearing down and letting in. As ever, there is a fine balance to be achieved in maintaining a social equilibrium between going with the flow and sticking to your guns.

In our personal lives, ill-defined or undefended boundaries can look like friends coming over unannounced- if you don’t like that; some people enjoy unexpected guests! It can look like someone over extended and exhausted because they never learned to say No or lazy and unfulfilled because they never learned to say Yes. We can do an awful lot toward ensuring these crucial personal defenses are strong if we start early.

Know Core,