How do you bond?

Out of four main attachment styles, around 50 per cent of people have a secure style, which comes with an innate confidence in getting their emotional needs met by their close relationships. But if you are one of the 20 per cent with an anxious attachment style, it can feel as if you never get the love and attention you need. The 25 per cent with an avoidant style, meanwhile, can get trapped in a ‘come here, go away’ cycle with friends and partners, and the five per cent with a chaotic attachment style get a double whammy of anxious and avoidant combined, and feel like life is an emotional rollercoaster.^*

1 In your friendship group, you’re the:

♥ Steady one who can be relied on

◆ One who’s most sensitive and easily upset

● Maverick who does their own thing

■ One with the most problems

2 How much time do you spend worrying about what people think of you?

■ It varies – sometimes you couldn’t care less, sometimes it’s an obsession

♥ Very little – you instinctively know with whom you connect

◆ Far too much – it’s a constant background worry

● Not a lot – what you think about other people is more important to you

3 When a new person joins your social circle or workplace, you tend to:

♥ Take a relaxed approach to getting to know them

● Keep your distance until you’ve sussed them out

◆ Feel anxious about making a good impression

■ Go with your gut reaction about whether you like or dislike them

4 If you fall out with a friend, your instinct is to:

■ Let everyone know you are the victim

● Avoid contact until things blow over

◆ Do whatever you can to make things right

♥ Ask to talk so you can both understand what’s happened

5 Time alone for you is:

♥ A chance to do some