Conversation Skills: Learn How to Improve your Conversational Intelligence and Handle Fierce, Tough or Crucial Social Interactions Like a Pro
By Zac M. Cruz
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Does your mind go blank when you try to make conversation with certain people? Are you not as social as you could be because you're afraid of running out of things to say? Have you ever secretly wished that you had the confidence and charisma to be able to connect instantly with pretty much anyone? Then you need to keep reading..
"No matter what job you have in life, your success will be determined 5% by your academic credentials, 15% by your professional experiences, and 80% by your communication skills." - Stephen Wang
Talking with strangers can be quite challenging for a lot of people. The fear of running out of things to say or making a fool out of yourself can be nerve-wracking. Because of this, most prefer to never take action and simply watch in frustration how those that are better at socializing and conversation take all the accolades, make great connections and succeed in life with greater ease.
Some people believe that you are either born charismatic or you aren't. You either have great social skills and are a great conversationalist or you're not. But how true is this? Are we really doomed to failure in social settings if we are not naturally extroverted or are currently anti-social?
Fortunately, there is a LOT that you can do to completely turn your life around, even if you currently consider yourself to be one of the least sociable persons you know of.
In this book, you'll discover:
-A painless way to eliminate social anxiety for the rest of your lifetime.
-A proven road map that anyone can use to boost their conversation skills even if they are extremely anti-social.
-Safe strategies to help break the ice with pretty much anyone!
-Secret hacks that will help save you a lot of time and become a better conversationalist and reach your goals quicker than you imagine.
-Effective strategies that actors and celebrities use that will help dramatically improve your body language and how others perceive you.
-Astounding ways to build your charisma so that you become the most likable and charming person in the room.
-Discover how to deal with even the toughest conversations like a total pro.
-And much more..
Scientific research has shown that developing social and conversational skills can lead to decreased levels of stress, anxiety, depression and other mood disorders.
Having a solid set of social skills inevitably leads to better academic and life outcomes.
Years of studying how our behavior patterns work in society have now made this type of training so easy-to-follow that even the shyest person you can think of can turn their life around with the correct roadmap.
So if you'd like to become an amazing conversationalist, make connections quicker, or increase your charisma, then click the buy button and start to improve your life today!
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Conversation Skills - Zac M. Cruz
Introduction
Have you wondered how different your life would look like if you were both socially confident and a great conversationalist?
A lot of people have a deeply ingrained belief that it is academic ability and intelligence quotient what has the most profound influence on our success in life. But there is substantial evidence now that shows that it is our ability to adapt to our social environment what has more impact on how well we fare in critical areas of our life.
And it’s not complicated to see why: humans, by nature, are social animals that have got mainly to where we are now thanks to our enhanced sense of social awareness. It is our ability to cooperate with others on a large scale and our imagination and reasoning that sets us apart from the rest of the animal species.
It can be limiting to think that social and conversation skills are mainly to make new friends. Being skilled at these help us communicate with others, learn more efficiently, ask better questions, make new friends, get better career opportunities, properly close business deals, form stronger connections with others, create a long-lasting impression, develop and maintain relationships, etc. The list of benefits goes on and on.
On the other hand, not having good social skills can have devastating effects and can even end up impacting our physical and mental well-being.
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We now know that having poor social skills is connected to experiencing feelings of loneliness, depression and other mood disorders. We tend to feel at our best when we connect with others and when we’re sharing experiences and emotions. Recently, it has also been found that a lack of social skills can even impact our physical health.
In my case, before I decided to get this area of my life sorted out, I was timid around people, anxious and had low self-esteem. If you had asked friends and family to describe me, none of them would have uttered the words good conversationalist,
sociable,
assertive
or confident.
I was deeply aware of this fact, and it just left me feeling more miserable until I finally mustered up the courage to get this and several other related areas of my life handled for good.
Whenever I saw someone speak up their minds, and often get what they wanted, I secretly wished I dared to do the same. I started to question if they had specific personality traits that made it so easy for them to be so vocal about their thoughts. After all, I was an introvert, and introverts are supposed to be shy and quiet, right?
Most tend to believe the false paradigm that people are born a certain way – for instance; you are either charismatic or you aren’t. Or you are born a passive guy or gal, or you’re an aggressive one. But in reality, there are several attributes that we can develop by consciously modifying our behaviors through constant practice. It took me a while to realize that this is possible. The thought of being an introvert that wasn’t shy or afraid of speaking his mind clashed with what others had taught me and what I had experienced throughout my life.
Nowadays, I love interacting and having great conversations with different kinds of people, especially strangers. It’s an exciting thought to think that I can form a connection with another person out of thin air, without knowing anything about him or her beforehand.
This has all been possible after dealing with the social anxiety that accompanied me for years and the conversational skills that I developed from almost scratch.
I wrote this guide for those who feel that their social skills, particularly their conversation skills, are lacking and perhaps even affecting their life negatively in specific ways. It doesn’t matter if you’re starting from pretty much zero (just like I was) or if you’re already decent, you’ll probably find some useful advice that will help you progress and improve, whether your goal is to make new friends or to be the life of every party you attend.
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Thank you, and I hope you enjoy the journey!
Chapter 1: Dealing with social anxiety
A lot of people want to become better conversationalists, meet new people, or increase their social intelligence, but there’s a significant roadblock that's preventing them from reaching these goals: social anxiety.
Social anxiety has to be addressed first to make any form of progress. If you’re continually experiencing negative feelings before, during and after social interactions, then it’s going to be extremely hard to focus on specific advice that helps you become better at being a good conversationalist.
In my case, I had almost crippling social anxiety that prevented me from going to most social gatherings and avoided most situations where I had to deal with or face several people that I didn’t already know. I was even deathly afraid of going to shows and events, out of the irrational fear of being called out from the audience and not knowing how to react or what to say.
Try to answer the following questions honestly:
-Do you tend to avoid social gatherings such as parties or reunions because you feel self-conscious or nervous while at them?
-Do you avoid certain social situations, even if they might increase your happiness or quality of life because of how shy you are?
-Are you always worried about what others might think of you during social situations?
-Do you feel like what you have to say is of little worth to others?
-Do you dislike being the center of attention out of worry that others might notice how anxious you are?
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, then yep, you've guessed it: you probably have some degree of social anxiety. Social anxiety is not a black and white thing – you might feel relaxed and at total ease in certain situations, but stressed out and nervous in others.
For some people, social anxiety can be very crippling, and it may even affect their health and impact their quality of life very negatively. Some of the most common symptoms of social anxiety are: feelings of embarrassment, feeling vulnerable, being too self-conscious, increased perspiration, change of voice tone, dizziness, stuttering, blushing, etc.
The causes of social anxiety
There are several explanations for what may cause social anxiety. There’s a substantial amount of research that suggests that past events in our lives can cause social anxiety. For instance, imagine that you inserted your finger in an AC socket when you were little. After getting a mild electrical shock, this event would teach you that AC sockets are dangerous and that inserting your finger in them will cause you harm, so doing this should be avoided. Going back to social anxiety, if you ever went through a social interaction where you felt embarrassed, awkward or uncomfortable during or afterwards, then you will try to avoid that event in the future as a way to protect your feelings.
Imagine a child speaking in front of his classroom, and something terrible happens (such as forgetting what he was going to say or doing something unintentional that made others laugh at him). That child is probably going to be afraid of speaking in front of others the next time, as he will be worried that a similar situation will repeat itself in the future. Because of this, he will start avoiding such cases like the plague, and eventually develop social anxiety.
There’s another theory that suggests that people with a particular style of thinking tend to develop social anxiety more easily; people with a pessimistic attitude that are always thinking that they will perform poorly in social interactions are prone to develop social anxiety. Others that believe that people are still paying attention to them and scrutinizing their actions are also more likely to develop social anxiety. Some have developed negative beliefs about themselves in social interactions. For instance, if someone believes that their opinion is of little worth and that they rarely have something of value to offer in social interactions, this usually translates to higher levels of social anxiety. These negative beliefs are continually working against them.
Interestingly, there are some more theories about other factors that may cause social anxiety. Some experts believe that some people may be more prone to develop social anxiety due to genetics. If someone in their family tends to have social anxiety, there’s a higher chance that others in their family will also be socially anxious. It seems to be true that our genes play a part in how likely we are to develop social anxiety.
Human beings are social creatures that tend to thrive when they are constantly interacting with others. Because of this, some social behavior experts believe that social anxiety is connected to the human fear of upsetting or disappointing other members of our society.
Disappointing others might mean that you will be rejected and thus, abandoned
by your group, and therefore left