This week on How to Love Your Body we are talking about weight loss and the expectations we have from it.

 

Before we begin we are THRILLED to share with you a free masterclass we are hosting Tuesday November 12th at 5:30 pm pacific and Thursday November 14th at 5:30 pm pacific called “ The 3 Ingredients you need to become an intuitive eater and find wellness without the obsession (even if you still want to lose weight),” you can grab your free spot at bit.ly/undietmasterclass for which ever time is most convenient. 

 

We will be sharing:

 

 

The 3 ingredients you must combine in order to find the balance in this work. 


We will be going over what they are and how to begin implementing them into your life.


At the end of the masterclass we will also be sharing more details about The UnDiet Academy at the end of the class (PLUS some bonuses for those who come on live).


 





You can grab your spot at bit.ly/undietmasterclass





Now let’s dive into today’s episode:





The reason we have these high expectations of weight loss is that the world is CONSTANTLY telling us that if we lose weight life will be better, we will be more loved, we will belong, we will be healthier, have more energy, live longer and be content….. So yeah, we want a lot to happen when we lose weight, how could we not?

 

This past week in our public Facebook group called Intuitive Eating and Body Love support, we posted a question and asked “Do you have a few sentences you can share about losing weight and it wasn't all you thought it would be?”, so we could get some insights for this episode.

 

We expected to get a couple responses but we didn’t, we received, 86 women’s stories about their experience after losing weight and it really solidified the truth that we are expecting too much from weight loss.

 

The reason this is a problem is BECAUSE we are expecting it to be life changing, we are sacrificing WAY too much to try to make it happen.

 

 

Physical and mental health


Social lives


Getting stuck in the cycle


Causes ourselves so much anguish and pain when we are constantly falling off the wagon.


 

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We’d like to share a few people’s stories with you before we get any further into today’s topic…





 

No matter how much I lost, no matter how much smaller I got...it was NEVER enough.


 

(And 4 people responded “me too”.)

 

 

I thought things would be ok, that I would feel great and satisfied when I got to my goal weight. When I got there, at that weight I wondered what it would feel like to lose 5 more. Would that bring me the joy and satisfaction? I realized there was just no end point.


 

 

 

The joy of weight loss was like a high that I quickly came down from. Then I wanted MORE. There was always something to fix and I ended up feeling horrible in the end.


 

 

 

Losing weight was never over. It always had to be more so no part of me enjoyed it. As it continued I became more isolated, depressed and obsessed.


 

 

 

I lost weight and life was the exact same. Literally nothing changed besides the number on the scale. I still had all the same problems and struggles.


 

 

And there are over 80 more comments with almost this exact same sentiment.

 

We work so hard towards something where the finish line is always moving AND if we do get there it doesn’t feel much different than when we started.

 

So why do we kill ourselves to lose weight? Many of us have spent 10-30 or 40 years in the diet cycle, often just losing and gaining the same pounds…

 

If you’ve been on the hunt for weight loss most of your life, we’d like you to ask yourself some of these questions.

 

And to get the questions and actually work them out, you can get your worksheet at thebodylovesociety.com/79

 

What will be different PHYSICALLY if you lost the weight you want to lose?

Here’s an example: I had this thought once when I was sitting at home having a bad body image moment. I asked myself, what would ACTUALLY be different