How to Be Extraordinary: Boost Self-Control, Stop Depression & Insecurity, Be Charismatic & Attract Happiness

By Richard Carroll

How to Be Extraordinary: Boost Self-Control, Stop Depression & Insecurity, Be Charismatic & Attract Happiness

If you want to Boost Self-Esteem, Stop Social Anxiety & Stress, Find Your Passion & Feel The True Freedom, then this is your book!

This book consists of awesome steps and techniques on how to solve self esteem issues, like feelings of being not good enough, of being inferior, and of being unworthy.

What are you waiting for? Kick off your bad habits now and start learning how to control and change yourself—for the better.

What You'll Learn in How to Be Extraordinary: Boost Self-Control, Stop Depression & Insecurity, Be Charismatic & Attract Happiness...

How to Skyrocket Your Communication Skills
How to Start Your Day Right with Morning Routine
How to Accomplish Your Goals
How to Cultivate Great Habits
How to Practice Mindfulness
How to Develop Your Self-Control
How to Win Friends Through the Power of Charisma
How to Defeat Shyness

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everyone believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your doubts. The bad news - you can interpret every people's speech in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Try this experiment: note down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a three-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how good you are. Show to your mind the material proof of your self-confidence.

Surround yourself with positive people. The more you surround yourself with positive and confident people in all areas of your life the more you will begin to feel the same. The very interaction with confidence motivates you to feel the same, it is contagious. The same goes for negativity. So, take a look at the people in your life and reflect on their net input regarding confidence in your life. True friends help you be more of yourself as far as it is concerned.

Appearance is everything. When you look good you feel good. Simple. If you are walking around looking like you just got out of a rubbish bin, you probably won't be too confident about yourself. We all know how you feel when you walk out of the hairdresser, you walk a bit taller, you walk with purpose. So look after yourself and dress your best and you will feel your best. You know your superb features to show them off!

This book will help you to get to know yourself better and learn how to focus on your strengths in order for you to become self-disciplined and successful.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to apply the necessary information from this book in your daily living. You can also share it to your friends or work colleagues who are in need of help on how to raise emotional intelligence and improve self-confidence.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386875352

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Overcome Insecurity

Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Enjoy a Richer Life

Chapter 3 - How to Increase Your Self-Confidence

Chapter 4 - Transform Your Life!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for purchasing this book.

This book consists of proven tips and techniques on how to be productive and to be successful with your day to day life.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

Thanks again for downloading this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Overcome Insecurity

It may not come as a surprise if you say that one time or another you felt self-conscious when you are placed in a room filled with strangers. But, have you ever felt so shy that your heartbeat began to race when a person asked you out on a date but you were too shy to say yes? This is another form of social anxiety.

Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at varying degrees. Your shyness might be because of any of the following:

Negative self-image

People who have a negative image of themselves usually believe that their unique characteristics aren't as interesting as other folks, thus they aren't worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to attempting hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say that you have to get back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

Extreme self-preoccupation

Self-preoccupation is when you become overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This sense will only create anxiety because you start to question your every move. Your focus is devoted to the things that you are doing wrong.

False labeling

When you say and find out yourself as a shy person, you begin to live up to that image.

To overcome shyness and social anxiety you need to use a few strategies:

Do not assume that the whole world is analyzing your every move. Remember that most people, including you, are busy looking at themselves. Why not bring your awareness inside? If you have understood the source of your anxiety, seek within your inner thoughts ways to counter that sense of shyness with positive thoughts. Self-awareness is your initial step into enhancing yourself.

Do not conform and do not attempt to pretend what you are not. Embrace your uniqueness. What you are not aware of is that each person you come in contact with has some extent of shyness in them. There are people who look cool and composed in the outside who are feeling self-conscious and anxious if people would notice what they are feeling inside.

Figure out how to relax and take deep breaths to relax the anxiety. Yoga can be a good remedy and exercise since it can help you relax. If you are relaxed, you are able to point your attention away from your own self and you begin to take notice and develop your conversational skills.

Practice visualization. Reshape your conception of yourself. See yourself as a confident person. Visualize a scene where you are in the middle of a conversation in a small group. Listen to what you are saying. See how comfortable you are while speaking with other people. See yourself oozing with self-confident. Visualize exactly what you are wearing, who you are with, what time of the day it is, and what you are talking about. Visualize this image again and again. Use your senses, pay attention to the sounds around you, see the images, feel the people you are with, and identify the smell. Establish what you are feeling that very moment. Make the images real in your thoughts.

Practice affirmation exercises. Discover the power of your thoughts and your words. Consistently speak about how assured you are, how happy you are, or how content you are. Say you have the capability, you are assured, and you are wonderful. These words will be found by your subconscious mind, imbibes them, and transform them into truth. Realign your thoughts, so rather than nurturing negative thoughts, take into account the positives. Visualization and positive affirmation changes your thinking habits and will cause you to changing your life in general.

Nobody's perfect. No matter how popular a person is, he is still not perfect, so stop comparing yourself with others.

Stop the labeling and simply be as confident as you can be.

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How to Skyrocket Your Self-Esteem

Psychologists define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel able? Are you proud of yourself? Are you encouraged? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

If you constantly doubt your self-worth and capabilities, if you have no trust in your capacities and skills and ultimately no pride in yourself, and if you find yourself feeling worthless, then you have issues with self-esteem, and you need to address that before it goes out of hand.

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem affects your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too aggressive when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to increasing your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner message is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Live Consciously

Do not betray your mind as it is man’s basic survival kit; it tells you what to do. Live in a way that you do not lie to yourself. Clear that mental fog in your mind and understand that you are human.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – thin, fat, black or white. It is agreeing that you like what you like, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with honor and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; a person is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Do not listen to negativity from people

You alone can make your life heaven or hell. Isn’t it great that the power to do all these lies in your hands? Wake up and smell the coffee because your time for living for other people is over.

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