Leadership Skills: Develop Self-Confidence, Eliminate Self Doubt, Improve Communication Skills & Influence People

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

Leadership Skills: Develop Self-Confidence, Eliminate Self Doubt, Improve Communication Skills & Influence People

If you want to Master Self-Esteem, Overcome Depression & Stress, Improve Communication Skills & Feel Good In Your Own Skin Again, then this is your book!

This book consists of awesome steps and strategies on how to develop your communication skills and use them to make more friends and persuade people.

Many people barely develop self-discipline because of various reasons. It could be stress, lack of motivation, and exhaustion. However, despite these varied causes, there are ways on how you can become a successful person. Self-discipline is not just about controlling oneself, but is about living a healthy, quality and successful life. Learn how to develop self-confidence and enjoy life with the strategies provided in this book. Read on and find out!

What You'll Learn in Leadership Skills: Develop Self-Confidence, Eliminate Self Doubt, Improve Communication Skills & Influence People...

How to Develop Your Communication Skills
How to Overcome Procrastination Forever
How to Increase Your Body Language
How to Improve Your Self-Confidence
How to Discover The Willpower In You
How to Be Productive
How to Captivate People Through the Power of Charisma
How to Reward Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Set smaller goals. I don't mean that you should not reach for the stars, however, I do know that to get to the stars you have to first get into the atmosphere. Feeling good about yourself is a constant process. Confidence does not just happen overnight. When you look at your life goals consider breaking them up into smaller, stepping stones to the end result. That way you can have a constant flow of positive reinforcement as you achieve the steps along the journey of life.

Think positive. It's the oldest trick in the book. If you know how to think positively, then things will be easier for you. Why? Because positive thinking might really do wonders. Aside from that, once you think positively, you will notice that you'll actually feel good about yourself, and that you will feel good about what's going on around you. And, even if things go wrong, you'd know that these are just challenges and that you can rise above them.

Take care of your health. If you feel good, you can achieve a lot. Regular exercises develop physical strength, perseverance and increase stress resistance. Choose a healthy diet and sleep a lot. Breaks for rest and relaxation, your personal time should be as usual in your daily routine as, for example, brushing your teeth. Enjoy the fact that you look good, and try to take everything from life. Others will look at you with interest and respect.

This book will help you improve emotional intelligence and self-confidence in both your work and personal life.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to apply the necessary information from this book in your daily living. You can also share it to your friends or work colleagues who are in need of help on how to raise emotional intelligence and improve self-confidence.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 23, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386259770

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Experts define self -esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel able? Are you proud of yourself? Are you encouraged? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as eating disorders, anxiety, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am so dead/I am going to die...

What was I thinking...?

He/she will never look at me...

I will never make it...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too aggressive when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to developing your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a rough place, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that support and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – short, tall, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Do not listen to negativity from people

You alone can make your life heaven or hell. Isn’t it great that the power to do all these lies in your hands? Wake up and smell the coffee because your time for living for other people is over.

Call a friend

Gather enough courage and start by asking someone that you trust or are close with to tell you some of the things that they love about you and that they think you are good at. The next step is you vent your feelings towards them. You need to have gathered enough courage to be able to tell everything you are feeling without holding back. Let it all out, and when you begin to cry, let them hug you but not try to fix anything or tell you it will be okay. Let it flow and lay it all on the ground. Ask for a hug also, and let them remind you that they love you. Again, her or she should be someone you can trust and has been there for you before.

Practice personal integrity

Developing and maturing requires you to develop your own standards or get them from other people. Integrity means integrating our standards and values in how we behave and in everything that we do. It is a matter of matching our standards and convictions to our actions and behavior. When you more often refuse to strike this balance, your self-esteem falls into uncertainty. Acting against what you hold to be morally upright is betraying your mind and creating an imbalance in your thoughts. Betraying your integrity means betraying yourself. Practice what you believe to be on the right track and redeem your self-esteem.

Chapter 2 - How to Explore Yourself

The most profitable investment you can ever make is one that you make in yourself. Self-investment can yield instant pay-off and amazing future returns. If you want to become more productive, then you have to prioritize your growth both personally and professionally. It is the key to a more successful and satisfying life.

Read to fuel your mind

One of the things all successful people have in common is the passion for reading books. Read not just for entertainment. Take up reading as a hobby. Charles William Eliot once said, Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors and the most patient of teachers.

Read books that increase your knowledge of the world and of yourself. Read books that can teach you a new set of skills and help you to become a better version of yourself. Read books that challenge you and motivate you to step it up.

Invest in personal growth courses

The mind works like a muscle. It gets much stronger when you use and exercise it. On the other hand, it becomes weaker if you do nothing with it. Engage in activities that challenge you. Try out something new. These things allow you to stretch your skillset to ways you have never reached before.

Enroll in a public speaking class. Attend workshops and conferences. Improve your education in every possible way you can. New activities challenge you to discover new things that will otherwise remain hidden and untapped.

Explore your creativity

Every individual has a gift of creativity. For some people, it is quite obvious but for others, it has to be unearthed. Tap into your creative side. It could hold the key to unlocking your highest potential.

Creativity is not just about creating beautiful ideas. Creativity can help you approach problems in different ways and find solutions outside the box. Creativity forces us to use other parts of our brain that may be untapped but are equally crucial for our individual growth.

In truth, creativity comes in many forms. It is not just exclusive for musicians, writers or painters. In essence, creativity is about exploring new things.

Write something. Cook or make your own clothes. Explore the outdoors and let it inspire you to make something tangible. Pick something you have never dared try before. Explore it fully and you may be surprised at the things it can help you discover.

Find a mentor

Is there a particular set of skills you want to develop? In addition to attending extra courses, you can also find a mentor. Think of anyone who succeeded in that area. Reach out to him. A mentor can teach you the tricks of the trade. More importantly, a mentor can serve as an inspiration and a source of great connections.

Successful people do not stop being students. Rather, they continue to push themselves outside their comfort zone.

These people are life-long learners. They make it a point to experience and learn new things. In the words of Albert Einstein, Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.

Have a balanced life

Leading a successful career does not require you to spend all your time on the job. Many people think they have to sacrifice everything else to create their careers. The truth is a balanced life is vital in productivity. You do not necessarily need to choose between your personal and professional life. The key to happiness is to find a balance.

Switch off

Learn to disconnect from the rest of the world so that wherever you are, you are completely present. Put your phone away. Turn off your computer. Take a real break and not think about work. Allow your brain to take a rest from all that. Interact with your family and friends. Be there with them completely. It is going to be