Love Yourself: Boost Self-Confidence, Overcome Stress, Be More Productive & Enjoy Your Life

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

Love Yourself: Boost Self-Confidence, Overcome Stress, Be More Productive & Enjoy Your Life

If you want to Master Self-Control, Eliminate Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Improve Communication Skills & Feel The True Freedom, then this is your book!

This book consists of awesome tips and strategies on how to improve your self-confidence so you can overcome social anxiety and shyness.

When you have control over your thoughts and actions, then your self-esteem would go higher, and you will also learn how to develop yourself in such a way that you would become a better and stronger person. Learn how to develop self-esteem and enjoy life with the tips provided in this book. Read on and find out!

What You'll Learn in Love Yourself: Boost Self-Confidence, Overcome Stress, Be More Productive & Enjoy Your Life...

How to Master Your Communication Skills
How to Eliminate Procrastination
How to Remove Anxiety
How to Improve Your Self-Confidence
How to Practice Mindfulness
How to Boost Your Self-Esteem
How to Become a Great and Effective Leader
How to Invest in Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everyone believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your doubts. The bad news - you can interpret every people's sight in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Try this experiment: write down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a three-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how great you are. Show to your brain the material proof of your self-confidence.

Think positive. It's the oldest trick in the book. If you know how to think positively, then things will be easier for you. Why? Because positive thinking can really do wonders. Aside from that, once you think positively, you will notice that you'll actually feel good about yourself, and that you will feel good about what's going on around you. And, even if things go wrong, you'd know that these are just challenges and that you can rise above them.

Take care of your health. If you feel good, you can achieve a lot. Regular exercises develop physical strength, perseverance and boost stress resistance. Choose a healthy diet and sleep a lot. Breaks for rest and relaxation, your personal time should be as usual in your daily routine as, for example, brushing your teeth. Enjoy the fact that you look good, and try to take everything from life. Others will look at you with interest and respect.

This book will help you learn where to start in trying to pursue your passion.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to follow the strategies and tips detailed in this book and change your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 22, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386020042

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Develop Your Self-Esteem

Experts define self -esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel able? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

If you constantly doubt your self-worth and capabilities, if you have no trust in your capacities and potentials and ultimately no pride in yourself, and if you find yourself feeling worthless, then you have issues with self-esteem, and you need to address that before it goes out of hand.

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. People seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem affects your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too aggressive when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to mastering your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a hard time, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that support and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – thin, fat, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Say to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know your rights and respect those of others too. It means you listen to other people also as much as you listen to yourself. Living as an assertive person is speaking and doing from your beliefs and feelings.

Call a friend

Gather enough courage and start by asking someone that you trust or are close with to tell you some of the things that they love about you and that they think you are good at. The next step is you vent your feelings towards them. You need to have gathered enough courage to be able to tell everything you are feeling without holding back. Let it all out, and when you begin to cry, let them hug you but not try to fix anything or tell you it will be okay. Let it flow and lay it all on the ground. Ask for a hug also, and let them remind you that they love you. Again, her or she should be someone you can trust and has been there for you before.

Practice personal integrity

Developing and maturing requires you to develop your own values or get them from others. Integrity means integrating our standards and values in how we behave and in everything that we do. It is a matter of matching our standards and convictions to our actions and behavior. When you more often refuse to strike this balance, your self-esteem falls into uncertainty. Acting against what you hold to be morally upright is betraying your mind and creating an imbalance in your thoughts. Betraying your integrity means betraying yourself. Practice what you believe to be on the right track and redeem your self-esteem.

Chapter 2 - How to Reward Yourself

The most profitable investment you can ever make is one that you make in yourself. Self-investment can yield instant pay-off and bigger future returns. If you want to become more productive, then you need to prioritize your growth both personally and professionally. It is the key to a more successful and enjoyable life.

Read to feed your mind

One of the things all successful people have in common is the passion for reading books. Read not just for entertainment. Take up reading as a hobby. Charles William Eliot once said, Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors and the most patient of teachers.

Read materials that increase your knowledge of the world and of yourself. Read materials that can teach you a new set of skills and help you to become a better version of yourself. Read books that challenge you and motivate you to step it up.

Invest in personal development courses

The mind works like a muscle. It gets much stronger when you use and exercise it. On the other hand, it becomes weaker if you do nothing with it. Engage in activities that challenge you. Try out something new. These things allow you to stretch your skillset to ways you have never reached before.

Enroll in a public speaking class. Attend workshops and conferences. Improve your education in every possible way you can. New activities challenge you to discover new things that will otherwise remain hidden and untapped.

Explore your creativity

Every individual has a gift of creativity. For some people, it is quite obvious but for others, it has to be unearthed. Tap into your creative side. It could hold the key to unlocking your highest potential.

Creativity is not just about creating beautiful things. Creativity can help you approach problems in different ways and find solutions outside the box. Creativity forces us to use other parts of our brain that may be untapped but are equally crucial for our individual growth.

In truth, creativity comes in many forms. It is not just exclusive for musicians, writers or painters. In essence, creativity is about exploring new things.

Write something. Draw or paint anything. Explore the outdoors and let it inspire you to make something tangible. Pick something you have never dared try before. Explore it fully and you may be surprised at the things it can help you discover.

Find a mentor

Is there a specific set of skills you want to develop? In addition to attending extra courses, you can also find a mentor. Consider anyone who succeeded in that area. Reach out to him. A mentor can teach you the tricks of the trade. More importantly, a mentor can serve as an inspiration and a source of great connections.

Successful people do not stop learning. They are smart enough to realize they will never know everything and so they continue to invest in themselves.

These people are life-long learners. They know it is all part of growing as an individual. In the words of Albert Einstein, Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.

Have a balanced life

Leading a successful career does not require you to spend all your time on the job. A lot of people think they have to sacrifice everything else to create their careers. The truth is a balanced life is essential in productivity. You do not necessarily have to choose between your personal and professional life. The key to happiness is to find a balance.

Switch off

Learn to disconnect from the rest of the world so that wherever you are, you are completely present. Put your phone away. Turn off your computer. Take a real break and not think about work. Allow your mind to take a rest from all that. Interact with your family and friends. Be there with them completely. It is going to be a real challenge to disconnect from the rest of the world, but it is totally worth it.