How to Develop Confidence: Overcome Social Anxiety & Shyness, Achieve Personal Goals & Get More Friends

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

How to Develop Confidence: Overcome Social Anxiety & Shyness, Achieve Personal Goals & Get More Friends

If you want to Master Self-Esteem, Beat Worrying, Improve Communication Skills & Feel Good In Your Own Skin, then this is your book!

This book consists of amazing tips and techniques on how to develop confidence, be productive and to be successful with your day to day life.

It will help you build a strong, optimistic view of yourself for life. This is for all of you who have problems getting along in life. You may be a victim of bullying, abuse, lack of confidence, or something even more serious. This is your book.

What You'll Learn in How to Develop Confidence: Overcome Social Anxiety & Shyness, Achieve Personal Goals & Get More Friends...

How to Increase Your Charisma
How to Develop Useful Leadership Skills
How to Get Rid of Shyness 
How to Uncover Your Passion
How to Reveal Your Talents
How to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence
How to Invest in Yourself
How to Meditate and Live a Better Life

And much more!

This book will help you develop great confidence, identify effective methods designed to bring out your charismatic personality.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to apply the necessary information from this book in your daily living. You can also share it to your family, friends or work colleagues who are in need of help on how to raise emotional intelligence and improve self-confidence.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 11, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386293415

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Chapter 1 –  How to Improve Your Self-Confidence

Low self-confidence can certainly destroy your life. If you are not confident in your skills and abilities, you will be afraid at doing anything. Every act, every phrase, and every conversation will be a terrifying experience, each time. You can perform these easy techniques when you want instant confidence:

Stay calm. There is no point in panicking at every situation. Do not destroy the experience by being anxious.

Hit the gym. Self-esteem is linked to our perception of ourselves. Exercise makes us feel good because of the release of endorphins. Feeling good about ourselves is good for our self-esteem. A strong and healthy body equals a strong and healthy self-esteem.

Don’t over think about other people’s opinions of you. Don’t assume that they won’t like you. Just go out there and be yourself.

Develop yourself. Self-confidence is about knowing what you can do. Self-esteem is about what you are. So, take some time to explore yourself, internally. Your inner self is who you are, the more you know yourself the more you will believe in yourself and develop a strong self-esteem.

Your thoughts are powerful. If you think that you are not good enough, then you are probably not good enough because your subconscious will take that as reality. Change the way you think and you change the way you view yourself. What you think is what you will become. If you remain confident that you can do anything, you will be able to do anything.

Learn to catch yourself when you think you're not good enough. Just because you're struggling to compete a certain step of your action plan does not mean that you are not good enough to achieve the goal. Just like with confidence and self-esteem you need to reframe the tough times so that you can let the Superman-Self break out. We all need a little help sometimes and sometimes we need to help ourselves!

Quit negative-thinking. Instead of telling yourself not to mess things up, just do what needs to be done. Your mind will pick up the mess things up and alter your way of thinking. So, when you want to achieve something, program your brain with a guideline that you have already succeeded. The subconscious mind will perform on whatever it is fed. Feed your subconscious with bad thoughts and you end up failing.

Dress up your self-image. Your self-esteem is based on your self-image and if your self-image is a slob, you will be a slob. So, dress up your self-image and really step out in yourself. You can wear all the brand names and fashion labels you want because the more you hold that image in your mind the more your life will become just that. So, dress up and step out into your life!

To exude self-confidence even when you are around people you are meeting for the first time, think about the way you are when you are around the people you know. This way, you’ll feel comfortable and you thwart whatever shyness you might also be feeling, in addition to lacking confidence. You don’t have to get intimated by people you don’t know if you look at them the way you look at your friends.

Think about your past accomplishments and achievements. Think about how you felt back then. Appreciate what you have achieved, no matter how small they may be.

The ultimate task is to practice self-awareness and self-acceptance. Get in touch with your inner strengths and weaknesses. Accept that you are not ideal and that you are flawed; and it’s perfectly normal to be that way because nobody’s ideal. When you are able to accept yourself for what you are, you begin to believe in yourself again.

When you have identified your weaknesses and the areas that you are struggling with, work towards improving yourself. Turn those weaknesses into strengths. Develop your positive talants. When you are able to improve on your weaknesses and develop your strengths, it is easier to feel a sense of self-worth.

Clean up your act and environment. Disorganization and clutter do not help in achieving your goals. You can't work a plan if you don't even know where the plan is. Being tidy and neat is a very good habit generally but is especially helpful in achieving your goals.

Identify your abilities. Self-esteem is all about trusting in your abilities. That sense of knowing only comes from identifying what you are good at. Knowing what you can do is one of the best ways of building your self-esteem. So, flex your muscles and use your mind as much as possible in order to develop a good, strong and healthy self-esteem.

Rest. Being tired is a sure-fire way of feeling down. Physical rest is not only vital for your body but is just as important for building healthy self-esteem. When you are rested, you are able to focus and concentrate better on the task at hand. This will make you feel better about yourself and improve your self-esteem.

Find your mission, your purpose. Feeling like you are not achieving makes you feel like a failure. Not achieving might be because you are working against your purpose in life. Your purpose is the fuel that keeps your self-esteem fire burning. Once you identify it and work towards it daily you will experience enormous self-esteem as you grow into yourself.

Concentrate on a specific time, place, and situation that you want to feel most confident in. Psychologists say that it is more effective to associate confidence with something concrete. Are you confident when you are with people you trust? Are you feeling confident when you are presenting to a client? Or are you feeling confident when you are talking to your boss? Concentrate on whatever makes you feel confident and you can handle anything.

Concentrate on words that describe how you want to feel at that specific moment. Words like relaxed or confident might help. Keep in mind that your brain works well when you feed it with clear and positive instructions. You have to make sure that you feed only positive thoughts so that it manifests into positive actions and reactions.

Visualize how you feel as you say these words. See yourself already in that specific situation and you are already feeling confident and calm.

Feed on the positive energy. Just like in your goals, you must use the positive energy that is generated in all areas of your life to feed the other areas of your life. This will help build your confidence and self-esteem and this, in turn, will feedback in a never-ending loop to help with the goals. And so on and so forth.

Chapter 2 – How to Improve Your Body Language

What makes charismatic people look more attractive and appealing isn't only how they talk, but also how they move. Charisma as a behavioral trait is something that runs beyond words; it also reaches non-verbal types of communication. You should develop an eye and an ear for these types of things in order that you can remain on top of each situation.

Essentially, it all boils down to reciprocity: treat others the way you want to be treated. If you want to be treated with admiration, for instance, you should treat others with value, too. You do so, however, with a mindful regard to keep the dynamics of your charismatic self. So while it is true that respect should be mutually afforded, you want to keep the upper hand of things by ensuring that you still project a subtext of power and retain a solid presence.

Following are a couple of things that you can do to perfect your body language:

Smile. Nothing eases anxiety and awkwardness between two strangers more than the view of a smiling face. You instantly look more accommodating and trustworthy when you present a smiling countenance instead of if you are visibly annoyed.

Give a solid handshake. This is indicative of self-reliance, strong-mindedness, and seriousness.

Learn to focus. When talking to another person, refrain from pulling out your phone if not settling your gaze on a far-away object. Keep your attention to the person you are speaking with as a form of courtesy and basic decency.

Don't be fidgety. Remain dependable. Otherwise, you end up looking more tense and nervous than you truly are.

Maintain eye contact. This is an indication that you are listening and that you are centered on what the other individual is saying. Be cautious, however, from overdoing it. Some people aren't comfortable participating in a staring contest of sorts, very much in order that they would voluntarily look somewhere else if they can't tolerate the awkwardness any longer.

Show that you are listening by nodding once in a while. Nothing says that you are actually listening and absorbing what is being said more than those little nods you make once in awhile.

Present a polite demeanor. Avoid raising your eyebrows, pouting your lips, wrinkling your nose, or shaking your head vigorously when you absolutely do not need to. You intend to run into as charismatic, not combative or hostile.

Do not cross your legs or arms. These are indicators that you are uncomfortable with the situation and that you are refusing to open yourself up to anyone present.

All the things mentioned above require frequent practice. Your mastery of the things relies in large part to the frequency with which you try them out and the breadth of your experience. Clearly, the greater used you get to these exact things, the better you become at showing your charisma.

To improve your skills further, consider practicing in the mirror. Stand in front of your mirror and pretend to be speaking with yourself. While doing this, watch your own gestures, your