How to Build Self-Esteem: Eliminate Social Anxiety & Stress, Achieve Personal Goals & Become a Great Leader

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

How to Build Self-Esteem: Eliminate Social Anxiety & Stress, Achieve Personal Goals & Become a Great Leader
If you want to Master Confidence, Ged Rid Of Social Depression, Improve Body Language & Enjoy Your Life, then this is your book!

This book consists of great steps and strategies on how to develop your communication skills and use them to make more friends and persuade people.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

What You'll Learn in How to Build Self-Esteem: Eliminate Social Anxiety & Stress, Achieve Personal Goals & Become a Great Leader...

How to Live a Meaningful Life with Less
How to Develop Your Communication Skills
How to Overcome Procrastination Forever
How to Make The Most of Your Day with Morning Routine
How to Accomplish Your Goals
How to Eliminate Anxiety
How to Increase Your Body Language

This book will help you to improve your self-confidence to overcome social anxiety and shyness.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to follow the strategies and tips detailed in this book and change your life.
 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 11, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386671619

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Improve Your Self-Esteem

Psychologists define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as social phobia, anxiety, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am so dead/I am going to die...

What was I thinking...?

It is too stressful to handle...

I can never...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too bullish when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to building your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a rough place, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that care and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – short, tall, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Say to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know your rights and respect those of others too. It means you listen to other people also as much as you listen to yourself. Living as an assertive person is speaking and doing from your ideas and feelings.

Call a friend

Gather enough courage and start by asking someone that you trust or are close with to tell you some of the things that they like in you and that they think you are good at. The next step is you vent your feelings towards them. You need to have gathered enough courage to be able to tell everything you are feeling without holding back. Let it all out, and when you begin to cry, let them hug you but not try to fix anything or tell you it will be okay. Let it flow and lay it all on the ground. Ask for a hug also, and let them remind you that they love you. Again, her or she should be someone you can trust and has been there for you before.

Live with a Purpose

Living with purpose is not waiting upon chance to guide your life. It is refusing to be at the mercy of chance. It is being the initiator of your own course, the controller. Living without a purpose is waiting upon things to happen, for things to be handed down without initiative, for being reactive and drifting along.

When you begin to realize the potential you have and start to plan your life, your self-esteem is nurtured. You become a wholesome person day by day. Ask yourself: what is it I am going to achieve? How? Are my means appropriate? Do I need to make adjustments to my strategy? Living purposefully requires you to be conscious of what you do while rethinking goals.

Living purposefully is a mark of success for people who enjoy control over their lives and are successful. Simply put, success in life requires that we live purposefully, knowing where we are going.

Chapter 2 – How to Improve Your Self-Confidence

Low self-confidence can certainly damage your life. In case you are not assured in your skills and abilities, you will be afraid at doing anything. Every act, every word, and every conversation will be a terrifying experience, each time. Below are a few easy things to do to build your self-confidence back:

Play it cool. Relax and don’t think about anything that might go wrong. When you are cool about everything, you can tolerate any uncertainties that might come your way. You don’t really know how things are going to pan out so why stress yourself?

Hit the gym. Self-esteem is linked to our perception of ourselves. Exercise makes us feel good because of the release of endorphins. Feeling good about ourselves is good for our self-esteem. A strong and healthy body equals a strong and healthy self-esteem.

Don’t over think about other people’s opinions of you. Don’t assume that they won’t like you. Just go out there and be yourself.

Develop yourself. Self-confidence is about knowing what you can do. Self-esteem is about what you are. So, take some time to explore yourself, internally. Your inner self is who you are, the more you know yourself the more you will believe in yourself and develop a strong self-esteem.

Your thoughts are strong. If you think that you are not good enough, then you are probably not good enough because your subconscious will take that as reality. Change the way you think and you change the way you see yourself. What you think is what you will become. If you remain confident that you can do anything, you will be able to do anything.

Learn to catch yourself when you think you're not good enough. Just because you're struggling to compete a certain step of your action plan does not mean that you are not good enough to achieve the goal. Just like with confidence and self-esteem you need to reframe the tough times so that you can let the Superman-Self break out. We all need a little help sometimes and sometimes we need to help ourselves!

Quit negative-thinking. Instead of telling yourself not to mess things up, just do what needs to be done. Your brain will pick up the mess things up and alter your way of thinking. So, when you want to achieve something, program your mind with a blueprint that you have already succeeded. The subconscious mind will act on whatever it is fed. Feed your subconscious with negative thoughts and you end up failing.

Dress up your self-image. Your self-esteem is based on your self-image and if your self-image is a slob, you will be a slob. So, dress up your self-image and really step out in yourself. You can wear all the brand names and fashion labels you want because the more you hold that image in your mind the more your life will become just that. So, dress up and step out into your life!

To exude self-confidence even when you are around people you are meeting for the first time, think about the way you are when you are around the people you trust. This way, you’ll feel comfortable and you thwart whatever shyness you might also be feeling, in addition to lacking confidence. You don’t have to get intimated by people you don’t know if you look at them the way