Summary of Ichiro Kishimi's and Fumitake Koga's book: The Courage to Be Disliked: Summary

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Have the courage to live a self-determined free life!

Do you sometimes feel that life does not mean well with you? Are there experiences from your past that overshadow your current life? Or are you waiting for the moment in the future when the tide turns and luck is finally on your side?

If this sounds familiar, get brave and break free from ingrained thought patterns. Free yourself from the expectations of those around you - you owe no one anything! Become the architect of your own happiness by allowing yourself to be who you want to be today. 
In the book "You don't have to be liked by everyone", authors Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga show, based on the teachings of Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler, how everyone can free themselves from negative and inhibiting thought and behavioral structures to live their lives in a self-determined and free way and to no longer stand in their own way of achieving their goals.

This summary includes an overview of the book "The Courage to Be Disliked" and its authors Kishimi and Koga, the main key statements, ideas and arguments, as well as an analysis with final review to help you quickly understand the book.

• Language: English
• Publisher: 15MIN LTD
• Release date: Feb 11, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201757625

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OVERVIEW

WHAT IS THE CORE MESSAGE OF THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED?

We are responsible for our own happiness at all times. While this realization is uncomfortable, it is also liberating. Admittedly, negative beliefs, thought structures and habits, traumas or the expectations our fellow human beings have of us play a certain role. But the real cause lies within ourselves. In truth, it is we ourselves who usually stand in the way of our happiness. As soon as we recognize this, we can begin to heal and free ourselves from the shackles of external determination in order to lead a free and self-determined life.

WHAT IS THE BOOK THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED ABOUT?

The book is based on the teachings of the Austrian physician and psychotherapist Alfred Adler, who, along with Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, is one of the best-known founders of psychology.

Adler's individual psychology is explained in the form of a dialogue between a philosopher (teacher) and a young man (student). The starting point is the philosopher's assertion that the world is simple and happiness is within everyone's immediate reach. The young man does not like this sentence, because the world looks completely different to him. Therefore, he decides to talk to the philosopher to find out if there is any truth in his statement.

Teacher and student meet several evenings for a discussion. In the process, the young man learns about Adler's psychology, which confronts him with all his attitudes towards life, which are in complete opposition to this teaching. He begins to grapple with the question of his own identity, who he is and who he wants to be. Again and again he resists that the world and life are simple and beautiful at the same time and he tries to prove to the philosopher that he is wrong with his concept. The young man refers to the teachings of Sigmund Freud and insists on the past and its effects up to the present. But in the end, he must realize that the truth is indeed simple, if uncomfortable.

Instead of resting on the argument that a messed-up childhood casts its shadow into the present and makes many things impossible, Adler assumes that people create their own problems in order not to