Summary of Do Hard Things By Steve Magness: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness

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Toughness has long been held as the key to overcoming a challenge and achieving greatness. In Do Hard Things, Steve Magness rebuilds our broken model of resilience with one grounded in science and psychology. He provides a roadmap for achieving high performance that makes us happier, more successful, and better people.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Willie M. Joseph
• Release date: Jul 16, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201088460

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Summary of Do Hard Things

By

Steve Magness

Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness

––––––––

Willie M. Joseph

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Contents

From Tough Coaches, Tough Parents, and Tough Guys to Finding Real Inner Strength

Sink or Swim: How We Took the Wrong Lesson from the Military

Accept What You Are Capable Of

True Confidence Is Quiet; Insecurity Is Loud

Know When to Hold ’Em and When to Fold ’Em

Your Emotions Are Messengers, Not Dictators

Own the Voice in Your Head

Keep Your Mind Steady

Turn the Dial So You Don’t Spiral

Build the Foundation to Do Hard Things

Find Meaning in Discomfort

From Tough Coaches, Tough Parents, and Tough Guys to Finding Real Inner Strength

In a recent study, college students were asked to describe what it means to be tough. Perseverance came out on top among 160 elite athletes. Knight's teams played disciplined, hard-nosed basketball. They pioneered a pressing man-to-man defense that tested players' discipline and perseverance. Knight's insistence on toughness being a critical factor in performance is backed by research and experience.

But his methods to achieve it are questionable at best, and abusive at worst. We have a fundamental misunderstanding of what toughness is. And it pervades far more than the basketball courts. Responsiveness refers to how well parents respond to and meet the needs of their children. Authoritarian parents rely on fear, threats, and punishment to ensure that their children make good choices.

The Goldilocks Fit occurs when expectations are high, but support is also high. In parenting and leadership, we've become confused about what actual toughness is. Callous: to harden, to make insensitive, to develop a thick skin. To be callous is to hide all signs of vulnerability. Frida Ghitis: Masculinity is so ingrained in our concept of toughness that we've confused it with callousness and machismo.

Those who display external signs of machismo are often the weakest, she says. Research shows women quietly handle pain better than their male counterparts. Rhabdomyolysis (or rhabdo for short) is a once-rare condition where damaged muscle products leak into the bloodstream. McNair died in the hospital two weeks later from heatstroke. Authoritarian parenting leads to lower independence, more aggressive behavior and substance abuse.

Many of us are conditioned to respond to fear and power through fear rather than self-regulation. Miller: There are better ways to ensure everyone learns the skills necessary to be truly tough. Proclaiming old-school model as the way to develop toughness is disastrous, he says. Frida Ghitis: Being tough isn't the same as being callous. We've mistaken external signs of strength for inner confidence and drive, she says.

Real toughness is navigating discomfort to make the best decision you can, she writes. Research shows this model of toughness is more effective at getting results than the old one. Pete Carroll is one of only three coaches to win an NCAA championship and a Super Bowl. Carroll doesn't shy away from making his players do difficult things. But he recognizes it's his job to give them skills to handle adversity.

He believes toughness comes from an