Leaving Fear: Master Self-Esteem, Stop Negative Thoughts, Improve Communication Skills & Live a Stress-Free Life

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

Leaving Fear: Master Self-Esteem, Stop Negative Thoughts, Improve Communication Skills & Live a Stress-Free Life

If you want to Boost Self-Control, Overcome Depression & Shyness, Be Charismatic & Enjoy Your Life, then this is your book!

This book contains great tips and strategies on how to learn ways to control and learn how to discipline yourself.

Many people barely develop self-confidence because of various reasons. It could be stress, lack of motivation, and exhaustion. However, despite these varied causes, there are ways on how you can become a successful person. Self-esteem is not just about controlling oneself, but is about living a healthy, quality and successful life. Learn how to improve self-esteem and enjoy life with the strategies provided in this book. Read on and find out!

What You'll Learn in Leaving Fear: Master Self-Esteem, Stop Negative Thoughts, Improve Communication Skills & Live a Stress-Free Life...

How to Live a Meaningful Life with Less
How to Get Rid of Procrastination Forever
How to Achieve Your Goals
How to Develop Great Habits
How to Skyrocket Your Willpower
How to Be More Productive
How to Develop Your Charisma
How to Reward Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everybody believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your doubts. The bad news - you can interpret every people's sight in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Make this experiment: note down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a two-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how good you are. Show to your brain the material proof of your self-confidence.

Positive statements. Remember the choice-to train? I know, I can, I know, I can! Positive statements are not about being oblivious to the not so positive but is about the right framing of your reality. Ever the most unpleasant event can be stated in some form of a positive statement. These statements give you the chance to build a productive positive outlook on life which supports your confidence in life. Having a positive outlook on life allows you to access far more of your abilities, therefore, you are able to achieve more every day.

Appearance is everything. When you look good you feel good. Simple. If you are walking around looking like you just got out of a rubbish bin, you probably won't be too confident about yourself. We all know how you feel when you walk out of the hairdresser, you walk a bit taller, you walk with purpose. So look after yourself and dress your best and you will feel your best. You know your superb features to show them off!

This book will help you to improve your self-confidence to overcome social anxiety and shyness.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to follow the strategies and tips detailed in this book and change your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 23, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386229490

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Psychologists define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you encouraged? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as social phobia, depression, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am a failure...

I am so fat/thin...

He/she will never look at me...

I will never make it...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. People seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too arrogant when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to increasing your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Live Consciously

Do not betray your mind as it is man’s basic survival kit; it tells you what to do. Live in a way that you do not lie to yourself. Clear that mental fog in your head and understand that you are human.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – short, tall, black or white. It is agreeing that you like what you like, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Be responsible for you

Begin to realize that no one will come to make you feel better. To each one, life is given, and we have our own lives to live. You are hence responsible for your own happiness. You can sit around and be gloomy about it all day, all year, and watch your life waste way, or you can take a stand and own your life and happiness.

Do not listen to negativity from people

You alone can make your life heaven or hell. Isn’t it great that the power to do all these lies in your hands? Wake up and smell the coffee because your time for living for other people is over.

Seek for a mentor

If the source of your self-esteem comes from school, seek the help of your teachers. There are also other professionals in school that should help you with school issues. If you are being bullied or teased, for instance, a teacher is someone trained to be an all-rounded instructor so he can help you.

Practice personal integrity

Developing and maturing requires you to develop your own standards or get them from others. Integrity means integrating our beliefs and values in how we behave and in everything that we do. It is a matter of matching our standards and convictions to our actions and behavior. When you more often refuse to strike this balance, your self-esteem falls into uncertainty. Acting against what you hold to be morally upright is betraying your mind and creating an imbalance in your thoughts. Betraying your integrity means betraying yourself. Practice what you believe to be on the right track and redeem your self-esteem.

Chapter 2 - How to Reward Yourself

The best investment you can ever make is one that you make in yourself. Self-investment can yield instant pay-off and amazing future returns. If you want to become more productive, then you need to prioritize your growth both personally and professionally. It is the key to a more successful and satisfying life.

Read to feed your mind

One of the things all successful people have in common is the passion for reading books. Read not just for entertainment. Take up reading as a habit. Charles William Eliot once said, Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors and the most patient of teachers.

Read books that increase your knowledge of the world and of yourself. Read books that can teach you a new set of skills and help you to become a better version of yourself. Read materials that challenge you and inspire you to step it up.

Invest in personal development courses

The mind works like a muscle. It gets much stronger when you use and exercise it. On the other hand, it becomes weaker if you do nothing with it. Engage in activities that challenge you. Try out something new. These things allow you to stretch your skillset to ways you have never reached before.

Learn a new language. Instead of running, try archery, dancing or surfing. Improve your education in every possible way you can. New activities challenge you to discover new things that will otherwise remain hidden and untapped.

Explore your creativity

Every individual has a gift of creativity. For some people, it is quite obvious but for others, it has to be unearthed. Tap into your creative side. It could hold the key to unlocking your highest potential.

Creativity is not just about creating beautiful ideas. Creativity can help you approach problems in different ways and find solutions outside the box. Creativity forces us to use other parts of our brain that may be untapped but are equally crucial for our individual growth.

In truth, creativity comes in many forms. It is not just exclusive for musicians, writers or painters. In essence, creativity is about exploring new things.

Play a musical instrument or sing. Cook or make your own clothes. Explore the outdoors and let it inspire you to make something tangible. Pick something you have never dared try before. Explore it fully and you may be surprised at the things it can help you discover.

Find a mentor

Is there a specific set of skills you want to develop? In addition to attending extra courses, you can also get a mentor. Think of anyone who succeeded in that area. Reach out to him. A mentor can teach you the tricks of the trade. More importantly, a mentor can serve as an inspiration and a source of great connections.

Successful people do not stop being students. Rather, they continue to push themselves outside their comfort zone.

These people are life-long learners. They make it a point to experience and learn new things. In the words of Albert Einstein, Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.

Have a balanced life

Leading a successful career does not require you to spend all your time on the job. Plenty of people think they have to sacrifice everything else to build their careers. The truth is a balanced life is vital in success. You do not necessarily need to choose between your personal and professional life. The key to happiness is to find a balance.

Switch off

Learn to disconnect from the rest of the world so that wherever you are, you are completely present. Put your phone away. Turn off your computer. Take a real break and not think about work. Allow your mind to take a rest from all that. Interact with your family and friends. Be there with them completely. It is going to be a real challenge to disconnect from the rest of the world, but it is totally worth it.

Simplify

You have to understand that you do not need a lot. Having more than you can handle will only cause you a great deal of stress. Avoid saying yes to everything or getting your hands on every little thing you can take. Learn to simplify and take only the essentials.

Stick to what is valuable and focus your time and energy taking care of them. That is how you can manage a better quality life, one that is not ruled by quantity.

Take care of your health

Health is a treasure so treat it like one. Nothing is worth sacrificing your health and well-being for. Make it one of your top priorities in life.

Being healthy makes you much more resilient against stress. According to studies, healthy people have better memory. Good health can make you