Enjoy Your Life: Master Self-Confidence, Beat Anxiety, Achieve Personal Goals & Feel The True Freedom

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

Enjoy Your Life: Master Self-Confidence, Beat Anxiety, Achieve Personal Goals & Feel The True Freedom

If you want to Develop Self-Control, Stop Social Anxiety & Stress, Be Charismatic & Enjoy Your Life, then this is your book!

This book contains amazing steps and strategies on how to improve your self-confidence so you can overcome social anxiety and shyness.

When you have control over your thoughts and actions, then your self-esteem would go higher, and you will also learn how to develop yourself in such a way that you would become a better and stronger person. Learn how to improve self-discipline and enjoy life with the tips provided in this book. Read on and find out!

What You'll Learn in Enjoy Your Life: Master Self-Confidence, Beat Anxiety, Achieve Personal Goals & Feel The True Freedom...

How to Become a Minimalist and Simplify Your Life
How to Overcome Procrastination
How to Improve Your Body Language
How to Boost Your Self-Confidence
How to Eliminate Stress, Focus Your Mind and Achieve Peace
How to Improve Your Self-Control
How to Develop Leadership Skills
How to Reward Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Set smaller goals. I don't mean that you should not reach for the stars, however, I do know that to get to the stars you have to first get into the atmosphere. Feeling good about yourself is a constant process. Confidence does not just happen overnight. When you look at your life goals consider breaking them up into smaller, stepping stones to the end result. This way you can have a constant flow of positive reinforcement as you achieve the steps along the journey of life.

Positive statements. Remember the choice-to train? I know, I can, I know, I can! Positive statements are not about being oblivious to the not so positive but is about proper framing of your reality. Ever the most unpleasant event can be stated in some form of a positive statement. These statements give you the chance to build a productive positive outlook on life which supports your confidence in life. Having a positive outlook on life allows you to access far more of your abilities, therefore, you are able to achieve more every day.

Take care of your health. If you feel good, you can achieve a lot. Regular exercises develop physical strength, perseverance and boost stress resistance. Choose a healthy diet and sleep a lot. Breaks for rest and relaxation, your personal time should be as usual in your daily routine as, for example, brushing your teeth. Enjoy the fact that you look good, and try to take everything from life. Others will look at you with interest and respect.

This book will help you improve emotional intelligence and self-confidence in both your work and personal life.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to put to work the steps written in this book and see your life change for the better. Remember, you can do this. Your life is in your hands—so make it great.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 19, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386068846

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Improve Your Self-Esteem

Psychologists define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you inspired? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as social phobia, depression, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am a failure...

What was I thinking...?

It is too stressful to handle...

I will never make it...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too aggressive when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to building your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Live Consciously

Do not betray your mind as it is man’s basic survival kit; it tells you what to do. Live in a way that you do not lie to yourself. Clear that mental fog in your mind and understand that you are human.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – thin, fat, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, you desire what you desire and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; a person is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know your rights and respect those of others too. It means you listen to other people also as much as you listen to yourself. Living as an assertive person is speaking and doing from your beliefs and principles.

Call a friend

Gather enough courage and start by asking someone that you trust or are close with to tell you some of the things that they love about you and that they think you are good at. The next step is you vent your feelings towards them. You need to have gathered enough courage to be able to tell everything you are feeling without holding back. Let it all out, and when you begin to cry, let them hug you but not try to fix anything or tell you it will be okay. Let it flow and lay it all on the ground. Ask for a hug also, and let them remind you that they love you. Again, her or she should be someone you can trust and has been there for you before.

Live with a Purpose

Living with purpose is not waiting upon chance to guide your life. It is refusing to be at the mercy of chance. It is being the initiator of your own course, the controller. Living without a purpose is waiting upon things to happen, for things to be handed down without initiative, for being reactive and drifting along.

When you begin to realize the power you have and start to plan your life, your self-esteem is nurtured. You become a wholesome individual day by day. Ask yourself: what is it I am going to achieve? How? Are my means appropriate? Is there new information I need to consider? Living purposefully requires you to be conscious of what you do while rethinking purposes.

Living purposefully is a mark of success for people who enjoy control over their lives and are successful. Simply put, success in life requires that we live purposefully, knowing where we are going.

Chapter 2 - How to Reward Yourself

The most profitable investment you can ever make is one that you make in yourself. Self-investment can yield instant pay-off and amazing future returns. If you want to become more productive, then you have to prioritize your growth both personally and professionally. It is the key to a more successful and enjoyable life.

Read to fuel your mind

One of the things all successful people have in common is the passion for reading books. Read not just for entertainment. Take up reading as a habit. Charles William Eliot once said, Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors and the most patient of teachers.

Read materials that increase your knowledge of the world and of yourself. Read books that can teach you a new set of skills and help you to become a better version of yourself. Read books that challenge you and inspire you to step it up.

Invest in personal growth courses

The brain works like a muscle. It gets much stronger when you use and exercise it. On the other hand, it becomes weaker if you do nothing with it. Engage in activities that challenge you. Try out something new. These things allow you to stretch your skillset to ways you have never reached before.

Learn a new language. Attend workshops and conferences. Improve your education in every possible way you can. New activities challenge you to discover new things that will otherwise remain hidden and untapped.

Explore your creativity

Every individual has a gift of creativity. For some people, it is quite obvious but for others, it has to be unearthed. Tap into your creative side. It could hold the key to unlocking your highest potential.

Creativity is not just about creating beautiful things. Creativity can help you approach problems in different ways and find solutions outside the box. Creativity forces us to use other parts of our brain that may be untapped but are equally crucial for our individual growth.

In truth, creativity comes in many forms. It is not just exclusive for musicians, writers or painters. In essence, creativity is about exploring new things.

Play a musical instrument or sing. Draw or paint anything. Explore the outdoors and let it inspire you to make something tangible. Pick something you have never dared try before. Explore it fully and you may be surprised at the things it can help you discover.

Find a mentor

Is there a specific set of skills you want to develop? In addition to attending extra courses, you can also get a mentor. Think of anyone who succeeded in that area. Reach out to him. A mentor can show you the tricks of the trade. More importantly, a mentor can serve as an inspiration and a source of great connections.

Successful people do not stop learning. They are smart enough to realize they will never know everything and so they continue to invest in themselves.

These people are life-long learners. They are never afraid of unfamiliar things or if they fail in the process of trying. In the words of Albert Einstein, Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.

Have a balanced life

Leading a successful career does not require you to spend all your time on the job. Plenty of people think they have to sacrifice everything else to build their careers. The truth is a balanced life is essential in success. You do not necessarily have to choose between your personal and professional life. The key to happiness is to find a balance.

Switch off

Learn to disconnect from the rest of the world so that wherever you are, you are completely present. Put your phone away. Turn off your computer.