HOW TO STOP BEING SO SELF-CRITICAL



PODCAST #366



Being self-critical can block you from having authentic and life-giving self-confidence. You don't have to suffocate under the self-imposed pressure of self-criticism any long. Being self-critical is a learned behavior and often a passed-down thought pattern. This episode will help you begin to unravel the toxic wiring in your mindset that is making you suffer and stagnate from self-criticism. 



In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:



There are three toxic moves that are suffocating you: comparison, distraction, and busynessReestablish what you are living for and get clarity.Harness the tenants of a recovering perfectionist and be radically kind to yourself



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REWIRING THE SELF-CRITICAL MINDSET



Identify first where the self-criticism comes from.



-A critical voice in your life? Was there a primary one or multiple ones?



-What does your self-critical voice say?



-What is the pressure you feel and why does it stem from being self-critical?



-I have a critical voice in my life - and I have to realign boundaries and expectations around them; I've learned that I will never get the praise or approval I crave from the person, so I have to let go. What do you need to let go of? 



You are not a victim of your thoughts.



You are the driver of your thoughts.



You are not a victim to the thoughts or expectations of others.



You are the decider of who's voice matters. 



“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” 



-Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life



“Our reaction to self-criticism is more important than the self-criticism itself. Paying attention to our reactions is very important because the only thing we have control over is how we react.” 



-Yong Kang Chan, The Disbelief Habit: How to Use Doubt to Make Peace with Your Inner Critic



“Self-criticism, on the other hand, is anathema to self-compassion. Once we learn to stop judging ourselves, we can look upon our lesser talents with compassion.” 



-Karen Rinaldi, It's Great to Suck at Something: The Unexpected Joy of Wiping Out and What It Can Teach Us About Patience, Resilience, and the Stuff that Really Matters



Comparison is toxic.



-We each have certain amounts of talent, some more, some less.



-We are responsible for what we have been given. Not that of others.



-Free yourself by being a good steward



Distraction will keep you dead.



-Busyness keeps us stagnant