PODCAST #337
HOW TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGE WHEN YOU'RE TIRED
Self-sabotage is the biggest hurdle keeping you from the results you want. Breaking the cycle of self-sabotage doesn't come from "trying harder" but rather from "thinking differently" and with more clarity and confidence.

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:

Why self-sabotage happens
The role shame plays in perpetuating self-sabotage
10 tips to break the cycle for good


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Thanks to this show and Trish Blackwell, I am a more confident person. I have been listening to past episodes every day for around a month and I have noticed a huge change in my mindset. I'm thinking more positively and openly. But, I have to say, the biggest change I have seen is my smile! I'm no longer fake smiling for pictures! I feel so good listening to someone who "gets" me and points me in the right direction. Thank you, Trish, for all you are doing!
WHAT IS SELF-SABOTAGE AND WHY DOES IT HAPPEN?
Self-Sabotage manifests itself in a variety of ways, including but not limited to:

Over-eating

Over-drinking

Over-watching TV

Over-exhaustion

It also can be expressed by mindsets and lifestyles of:

An attitude of giving up

Believing that it doesn't matter

Will-power exhaustion

Numbing through scrolling and comparison

Overwhelm over how far one has to go
THE ROLE OF SHAME IN THE CYCLE OF SELF-SABOTAGE
Self-Sabotage is Black/White Thinking ... All or Nothing Mindset and the pressure of perfectionism and perfectionistic thinking perpetuate the cycle.

It is driven by guilt and shame.

"I choose peace, not pressure."

Putting more pressure on yourself never works and never will.

To listen to coaching on exactly how to go into recovery and to enter "rehab" for perfectionism, be sure to listen to episode #335 of The Confidence Podcast on "Why Perfectionism Prevents You from Being Confident."  (www.trishblackwell.com/335)
10 TIPS TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF SELF-SABOTAGE FOR GOOD:

Stop depriving yourself!  (Deprivation sets us up for failure)
Create a strong "Last 90 Minutes Routine"
Camp out around the concept of grace
Growth is everything - find gratitude for the lessons and nothing is wasted
Overcome overwhem by not over-focusing on the finish line
Get in the habit of champagne moments and momentum celebration
Shatter your belief ceilings
Choose peace, not pressure
Be here, now (not in the future, not in the past, not in comparison)
Recharge yourself intentionally and know your capacity

Real change doesn't come from behavior modification but from heart transformation. Our habits are birthed from the beliefs we have and hold in our hearts.
ANNOUNCEMENTS: 
School is starting back up - Summer is coming to a close ... it's time to shed the things holding you back and to lean into what you anticipate is waiting you in the future.

You're busy getting everyone else ready for the Fall, but what about you?

Well, I've got you covered.