How to Boost Self-Esteem: Overcome Social Anxiety & Negative Thoughts, Achieve Personal Goals & Feel Good in Your Own Skin Again

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

How To Boost Self-Esteem: Overcome Social Anxiety & Negative Thoughts, Achieve Personal Goals & Feel Good In Your Own Skin Again
If you want to Build Confidence, Stop Worrying & Shyness, Improve Body Language, then this is your book!

This book consists of great steps and strategies on how to solve self-esteem issues, like feelings of being not good enough, of being inferior, and of being unworthy.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

What You'll Learn in How To Boost Self-Esteem: Overcome Social Anxiety & Negative Thoughts, Achieve Personal Goals & Feel Good In Your Own Skin Again

How to Live a Meaningful Life with Less
How to Master Your Communication Skills
How to Eliminate Procrastination
How to Wake Up Early, Energized and Motivated Everyday with Morning Routine
How to Achieve Your Goals
How to Stop Anxiety
How to Master Your Body Language
How to Manage Your Time and Get Things Done

This book will help you to build your self-esteem.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to download your copy follow the strategies and tips detailed in this book and change your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 8, 2018
• ISBN: 9781540101846

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Increase Your Self-Esteem

Experts describe self -esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

If you constantly doubt your self-worth and capabilities, if you have no trust in your qualifications and skills and ultimately no pride in yourself, and if you find yourself feeling worthless, then you have issues with self-esteem, and you need to address that before it goes out of hand.

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too bullish when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to building your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a hard time, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that care and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – thin, fat, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Say to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with honor and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; a person is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Do not listen to negativity from people

You alone can make your life heaven or hell. Isn’t it great that the power to do all these lies in your hands? Wake up and smell the coffee because your time for living for other people is over.

Seek for a mentor

If the source of your self-esteem comes from school, seek the help of your teachers. There are also other professionals in the education system that should help you with school issues. If you are being bullied or teased, for instance, a teacher is a person trained to be an all-rounded instructor so he can help you.

Practice personal integrity

Developing and maturing requires you to develop your own standards or get them from others. Integrity means integrating our standards and values in how we behave and in everything that we do. It is a matter of matching our standards and convictions to our actions and behavior. When you more often refuse to strike this balance, your self-esteem falls into uncertainty. Acting against what you hold to be morally upright is betraying your mind and creating an imbalance in your thoughts. Betraying your integrity means betraying yourself. Practice what you believe to be on the right track and redeem your self-esteem.

Chapter 2 – How to Perfect Your Body Language

Communication is an integral part of people's life. It is difficult expressing thoughts and feelings unless you have the means to.

Human beings talk to one another verbally and nonverbally. Verbal communication is straightforward to understand because you get them as it is. Nonverbal communication entails body language. By understanding how to decipher body language and being aware of what others aren't saying, you'll have a clearer understanding of other people. It also helps you talk more effectively.

Signals make up an enormous chunk of your daily communication. Your facial expressions can say a whole lot even without you opening your mouth. Those things you don't say speak volumes. Experts say that body gestures make up about 50% to 70% of your communication. Decoding a person's body language is vital, but you also have to look for other signs like the framework of what the other is saying.

People often just forget about the importance of body gestures because most are busy talking and thinking about how exactly they are going to impress the other person to close the transaction with a favorable result. When you need to speak or present to an important client or business partner, you must have the ability to control your nervousness and prevent unnecessary body gestures that will come off adversely. In a group, conversations are even more difficult because their hand gestures and other signs are harder to decipher. Ever before been in a group where several individuals seem to talking nonverbally? Have you ever had the feeling that an individual is lying to you? Or was there ever a case when you couldn't believe what the other person was saying?

Learn to relax as it also helps relax your brain and that means you can think clearly and you look more confident. When you are confident, you can speak clearly and with authority. Appearing calm and confident will let you gain your audience's trust and confidence, as well.

Concentrate on three aspects: your stance, the positioning of your head, and breathing. Try maintaining your shoulders slightly going to the back and your upper body wide open, this makes breathing easier. Before your talk, you can take tiny deep breaths to help you shake off the nervousness.

The right posture is having your head tilted (but not too much, lest you want to be perceived as arrogant), while your spine and back is straight up. You should look like this whether you are sitting on a chair or taking a stand. You want to command esteem and authority which means you also need to avoid slouching as it can indicate a nervousness and insufficient confidence.

You are not likely to perfect this position immediately but it pays to practice. Taking benefit of nonverbal indicators when dealing for your business tractions will go a long way.

Take into account that it is not always what the other person says that is important; you have to ensure you know how to decode