Get Things Done: Build Self-Control, Be More Productive, Achieve Personal Goals & Enjoy Your Life

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

Get Things Done: Build Self-Control, Be More Productive, Achieve Personal Goals & Enjoy Your Life

If you want to Boost Self-Confidence, Eliminate Fear & Negative Thoughts, Develop Leadership Skills & Feel The True Freedom, then this is your book!

This book contains proven tips and strategies on how to develop your communication skills and use them to make more friends and persuade people.

It will help you build a strong, optimistic view of yourself for life. This is for all of you who have problems getting along in life. You may be a victim of bullying, abuse, lack of confidence, or something even more serious. This is your book.

What You'll Learn in Get Things Done: Build Self-Control, Be More Productive, Achieve Personal Goals & Enjoy Your Life...

How to Become a Minimalist and Simplify Your Life
How to Get Rid of Procrastination Forever
How to Get Rid of Anxiety
How to Develop Good Habits
How to Live in The Present Moment Through Mindfulness
How to Bring Positivity in Your Life
How to Boost Your Charisma
How to Eliminate Shyness

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Set smaller goals. I don't mean that you should not reach for the stars, however, I do know that to get to the stars you have to first get into the atmosphere. Feeling good about yourself is a constant process. Confidence does not just happen overnight. When you look at your life goals consider breaking them up into smaller, stepping stones to the end result. This way you can have a constant flow of positive reinforcement as you achieve the steps along the journey of life.

Surround yourself with positive people. The more you surround yourself with positive and confident individuals in all areas of your life the more you will begin to feel the same. The very interaction with confidence inspires you to feel the same, it is contagious. The same goes for negativity. So, take a look at the people in your life and reflect on their net input regarding confidence in your life. True friends support you be more of yourself as far as it is concerned.

Appearance is everything. When you look good you feel good. Simple. If you are walking around looking like you just got out of a rubbish bin, you probably won't be too confident about yourself. We all know how you feel when you walk out of the hairdresser, you walk a bit taller, you walk with purpose. So look after yourself and dress your best and you will feel your best. You know your best features to show them off!

This book will help you to build your self esteem.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to put to work the steps written in this book and see your life change for the better. Remember, you can do this. Your life is in your hands—so make it great.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 21, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386356608

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Develop Your Self-Esteem

Experts define self -esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

If you constantly doubt your self-worth and capabilities, if you have no trust in your capacities and skills and ultimately no pride in yourself, and if you find yourself feeling worthless, then you have issues with self-esteem, and you need to address that before it goes out of hand.

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem affects your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too arrogant when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to improving your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a rough place, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that support and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Understand and put thought in all that you do

Make informed choices, and avoid impulsiveness. If you do not live mindfully, your brain freezes, it is no longer able to send meaningful messages to you because you keep doing the opposite. For example, stop lying about things that you may not have or are not able to do. Stop lying to yourself that he or she loves you and that he or she will come around. Mixed signals will kill your mind. You are only making room for mental dysfunction. Do not trick your mind anymore into believing things that are not true and hence living a lie. Accept things the way they are; it is a daily walk.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know your rights and respect those of others too. It means you listen to other people also as much as you listen to yourself. Living as an assertive person is speaking and doing from your beliefs and feelings.

Seek for a mentor

If the source of your self-esteem comes from school, seek the help of your teachers. There are also other professionals in the education system that should help you with school issues. If you are being bullied or teased, for instance, a teacher is someone trained to be an all-rounded instructor so he can help you.

Live with a Purpose

Living with purpose is not waiting upon chance to guide your life. It is refusing to be at the mercy of chance. It is being the initiator of your own course, the builder of your own life. Living without a purpose is waiting upon things to happen, for things to be handed down without initiative, for being reactive and drifting along.

When you begin to realize the power you have and start to plan your life, your self-esteem is nurtured. You become a wholesome individual day by day. Ask yourself: what is it I am going to achieve? How? Are my means appropriate? Do I need to make adjustments to my strategy? Living purposefully requires you to be conscious of what you do while rethinking goals.

Living purposefully is a mark of success for people who enjoy control over their lives and are successful. Simply put, success in life requires that we live purposefully, knowing where we are going.

Chapter 2 - How to Reward Yourself

The best investment you can ever make is one that you make in yourself. Self-investment can yield instant pay-off and bigger future returns. If you want to become more productive, then you have to prioritize your growth both personally and professionally. It is the key to a more successful and enjoyable life.

Read to fuel your mind

One of the things all successful people have in common is the passion for reading books. Read not just for entertainment. Take up reading as a habit. Charles William Eliot once said, Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors and the most patient of teachers.

Read books that increase your knowledge of the world and of yourself. Read books that can teach you a new set of skills and help you to become a better version of yourself. Read materials that challenge you and inspire you to step it up.

Invest in personal development courses

The mind works like a muscle. It gets much stronger when you use and exercise it. On the other hand, it becomes weaker if you do nothing with it. Engage in activities that challenge you. Try out something new. These things allow you to stretch your skillset to ways you have never reached before.

Enroll in a public speaking class. Attend workshops and conferences. Improve your education in every possible way you can. New activities challenge you to discover new things that will otherwise remain hidden and untapped.

Explore your creativity

Every person has a gift of creativity. For some people, it is quite obvious but for others, it has to be unearthed. Tap into your creative side. It could hold the key to unlocking your highest potential.

Creativity is not just about creating beautiful things. Creativity can help you approach problems in different ways and find solutions outside the box. Creativity forces us to use other parts of our brain that may be untapped but are equally crucial for our individual growth.

In truth, creativity comes in many forms. It is not just exclusive for musicians, writers or painters. In essence, creativity is about exploring new things.

Play a musical instrument or sing. Draw or paint anything. Take pictures of a beautiful landscape. Pick something you have never dared try before. Explore it fully and you may be surprised at the things it can help you discover.

Find a mentor

Is there a particular set of skills you want to develop? In addition to attending extra courses, you can also find a mentor. Think of anyone who succeeded in that area. Reach out to him. A mentor can teach you the tricks of the trade. More importantly, a mentor can serve as an inspiration and a source of great connections.

Successful people do not stop learning. They are smart enough to realize they will never know everything and so they continue to invest in themselves.

These people are life-long learners. They know it is all part of growing as an individual. In the words of Albert Einstein, Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.

Have a balanced life

Leading a successful career does not require you to spend all your time on the job. A lot of people think they have to sacrifice everything else to build their careers. The truth is a balanced life is crucial in productivity. You do not necessarily need to choose between your personal and professional life. The key to happiness is to find a balance.

Switch off

Learn to disconnect from the rest of the world so that wherever you are, you are completely present. Put your phone away. Turn off your computer. Take a real break and not think about work. Allow your mind to take a rest from