Make it Happen: Develop Self-Confidence, Overcome Anxiety, Stay Motivated & Achieve Your Goals

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

Make it Happen: Develop Self-Confidence, Overcome Anxiety, Stay Motivated & Achieve Your Goals

If you want to Build Self-Confidence, Overcome Social Anxiety & Self Doubt, Find Your Passion & Get More Friends, then this is your book!

This book consists of amazing steps and techniques on how to develop self-discipline and achieve your goals.

What are you waiting for? Kick off your bad habits now and start learning how to control and change yourself—for the better.

What You'll Learn in Make it Happen: Develop Self-Confidence, Overcome Anxiety, Stay Motivated & Achieve Your Goals...

How to Become a Minimalist and Declutter Your Life
How to Build a Life-Changing Morning Routine
How to Manage Your Time and Get The Best Results
How to Build Great Habits
How to Live in The Moment Through Mindfulness
How to Develop Your Self-Control
How to Develop Leadership Skills
How to Get Rid of Shyness

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Set smaller goals. I don't mean that you should not reach for the stars, however, I do know that to get to the stars you have to first get into the atmosphere. Feeling good about yourself is a constant process. Confidence does not just happen overnight. When you look at your life goals consider breaking them up into smaller, stepping stones to the end result. This way you can have a constant flow of positive reinforcement as you achieve the steps along the journey of life.

Communicate with positive and confident people more. Positive people are not trying to pressure you. Choose or modify your social circle, as it directly affects your self-esteem. There is an excellent - "Lives with the cripple, learns how to limp".

Exercise. Once you exercise, even just simple walking, you'll find out that you get this surge of adrenaline. This is because happy hormones are released and therefore, you feel more confident about yourself, and more confident that you are actually capable of doing great things. Plus, once you exercise, you'll get to be happy and very beautiful, too.

This book will help you to improve your self-confidence to overcome social anxiety and shyness.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to put to work the steps written in this book and see your life change for the better. Remember, you can do this. Your life is in your hands—so make it great.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 22, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386666370

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Increase Your Self-Esteem

Experts describe self -esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you encouraged? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

If you constantly doubt your self-worth and capabilities, if you have no trust in your qualifications and skills and ultimately no pride in yourself, and if you find yourself feeling worthless, then you have issues with self-esteem, and you need to address that before it goes out of hand.

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem affects your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too bullish when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to mastering your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Live Consciously

Do not betray your mind as it is man’s basic survival kit; it tells you what to do. Live in a way that you do not lie to yourself. Clear that mental fog in your head and understand that you are human.

Understand and put thought in all that you do

Make informed choices, and avoid impulsiveness. If you do not live mindfully, your brain freezes, it is no longer able to send meaningful messages to you because you keep doing the opposite. For instance, stop lying about things that you may not have or are not able to do. Stop lying to yourself that he or she loves you and that he or she will come around. Mixed signals will kill your mind. You are only making room for mental dysfunction. Do not trick your mind anymore into believing things that are not true and hence living a lie. Accept things the way they are; it is a daily walk.

Be responsible for you

Begin to realize that no one will come to make you feel better. To each one, life is given, and we have our own lives to live. You are hence responsible for your own happiness. You can sit around and be gloomy about it all day, all year, and watch your life waste way, or you can take a stand and own your life and happiness.

Do not listen to negativity from people

You alone can make your life heaven or hell. Isn’t it great that the power to do all these lies in your hands? Wake up and smell the coffee because your time for living for other people is over.

Call a friend

Gather enough courage and start by asking someone that you trust or are close with to tell you some of the things that they love about you and that they think you are good at. The next step is you vent your feelings towards them. You need to have gathered enough courage to be able to tell everything you are feeling without holding back. Let it all out, and when you begin to cry, let them hug you but not try to fix anything or tell you it will be okay. Let it flow and lay it all on the ground. Ask for a hug also, and let them remind you that they love you. Again, her or she should be someone you can trust and has been there for you before.

Practice personal integrity

Developing and maturing requires you to develop your own standards or get them from others. Integrity means integrating our beliefs and values in how we behave and in everything that we do. It is a matter of matching our standards and convictions to our actions and behavior. When you more often refuse to strike this balance, your self-esteem falls into uncertainty. Acting against what you hold to be morally upright is betraying your mind and creating an imbalance in your thoughts. Betraying your integrity means betraying yourself. Practice what you believe to be on the right track and redeem your self-esteem.

Chapter 2 - How to Explore Yourself

The best investment you can ever make is one that you make in yourself. Self-investment can yield instant pay-off and amazing future returns. If you want to become more productive, then you have to prioritize your growth both personally and professionally. It is the key to a more successful and enjoyable life.

Read to fuel your brain

One of the things all successful people have in common is the passion for reading books. Read not just for entertainment. Take up reading as a hobby. Charles William Eliot once said, Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors and the most patient of teachers.

Read materials that increase your knowledge of the world and of yourself. Read books that can teach you a new set of skills and help you to become a better version of yourself. Read materials that challenge you and motivate you to step it up.

Invest in personal growth courses

The mind works like a muscle. It gets much stronger when you use and exercise it. On the other hand, it becomes weaker if you do nothing with it. Engage in activities that challenge you. Try out something new. These things allow you to stretch your skillset to ways you have never reached before.

Learn a new language. Attend workshops and conferences. Improve your education in every possible way you can. New activities challenge you to discover new things that will otherwise remain hidden and untapped.

Explore your creativity

Every person has a gift of creativity. For some people, it is quite obvious but for others, it has to be unearthed. Tap into your creative side. It could hold the key to unlocking your highest potential.

Creativity is not just about creating beautiful ideas. Creativity can help you approach problems in different ways and find solutions outside the box. Creativity forces us to use other parts of our brain that may be untapped but are equally crucial for our individual growth.

In truth, creativity comes in many forms. It is not just exclusive for musicians, writers or painters. In essence, creativity is about exploring new things.

Write something. Draw or paint anything. Take pictures of a beautiful landscape. Pick something you have never dared try before. Explore it fully and you may be surprised at the things it can help you discover.

Find a mentor

Is there a particular set of skills you want to develop? In addition to attending extra courses, you can also get a mentor. Think of anyone who succeeded in that area. Reach out to him. A mentor can show you the tricks of the trade. More importantly, a mentor can serve as an inspiration and a source of great connections.

Successful people do not stop being students. Rather, they continue to push themselves outside their comfort zone.

These people are life-long learners. They know it is all part of growing as an individual. In the words of Albert Einstein, Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.

Have a balanced life

Leading a successful career does not require you to spend all your time on the job. Many people think they have to sacrifice everything else to create their careers. The truth is a balanced life is crucial in success. You do not necessarily need to choose between your personal and professional life. The key to happiness is to find a balance.

Switch off

Learn to disconnect from the rest of the world so that wherever you are, you are completely present. Put your phone away. Turn off your computer. Take a real break and not think about work. Allow your brain to take a rest from all that. Interact with your family and friends. Be there with them completely. It is going to be a real challenge to disconnect from the rest of the world, but it is totally worth it.

Simplify

You have to realize that you do not need a lot. Having more than you can handle will only cause you a great deal of stress. Avoid saying yes to everything or getting your hands on every little thing you can take. Learn to simplify and take only the essentials.

Stick to what is valuable and focus your time and energy taking care of them. That is how you can manage a better quality life, one that is not ruled by quantity.

Take care of your health

Health is a treasure so treat it like one. Nothing is worth sacrificing your health and well-being