Self-Confidence Solution: Develop Self-Esteem, Ged Rid of Depression & Negative Thoughts, Find Your Mission & Feel The True Freedom

By Richard Carroll

Self-Confidence Solution: Develop Self-Esteem, Ged Rid of Depression & Negative Thoughts, Find Your Mission & Feel The True Freedom

If you want to Increase Self-Confidence, Ged Rid of Worrying & Self Doubt, Find Your Passion & Feel The True Freedom, then this is your book!

This book contains amazing steps and techniques on how to improve your self-confidence so you can overcome social anxiety and shyness.

When you have control over your thoughts and actions, then your self-esteem would go higher, and you will also learn how to develop yourself in such a way that you would become a better and stronger person. Learn how to develop self-esteem and enjoy life with the tips provided in this book. Read on and find out!

What You'll Learn in Self-Confidence Solution: Develop Self-Esteem, Ged Rid of Depression & Negative Thoughts, Find Your Mission & Feel The True Freedom...

How to Become a Minimalist and Simplify Your Life
How to Beat Procrastination
How to Get Rid of Anxiety
How to Create Great Habits
How to Achieve Happiness Through Mindfulness
How to Skyrocket Your Self-Esteem
How to Fascinate People Through the Power of Charisma
How to Reward Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Set smaller goals. I don't mean that you should not reach for the stars, however, I do know that to get to the stars you have to first get into the atmosphere. Feeling good about yourself is a constant process. Confidence does not just happen overnight. When you look at your life goals consider breaking them up into smaller, stepping stones to the end result. That way you can have a constant flow of positive reinforcement as you achieve the steps along the journey of life.

Positive statements. Remember the choice-to train? I know, I can, I know, I can! Positive statements are not about being oblivious to the not so positive but is about proper framing of your reality. Ever the most unpleasant event can be stated in some form of a positive statement. These statements give you the chance to build a productive positive outlook on life which supports your confidence in life. Having a positive outlook on life allows you to access far more of your abilities, thus, you are able to achieve more every day.

Appearance is everything. When you look good you feel good. Simple. If you are walking around looking like you just got out of a rubbish bin, you probably won't be too confident about yourself. We all know how you feel when you walk out of the hairdresser, you walk a bit taller, you walk with purpose. So look after yourself and dress your best and you will feel your best. You know your best features to show them off!

This book will help you improve emotional intelligence and self-confidence in both your work and personal life.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to put the useful information you found here into practice day by day, and begin to enjoy the wholesomeness of life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781533757388

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Get Rid of Shyness

Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Have a Richer Life

Chapter 3 - How to Build Your Self-Confidence

Chapter 4 - Start Living Today!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for purchasing this book.

This book consists of amazing steps and strategies on how to learn ways to control and learn how to discipline yourself.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

Thanks again for purchasing this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Get Rid of Shyness

It may not come as a surprise if you say that one time or another you felt self-conscious when you are placed in a room full of strangers. But, have you ever experienced so shy that your heartbeat began to race when somebody asked you out on a date but you were too shy to say yes? That is another form of social anxiety.

Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at differing degrees. Your shyness might be because of the following:

Negative self-image

Individuals who have a negative image of themselves usually think that their unique qualities aren't as interesting as other people, thus they aren't worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to attempting hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say that you have to go back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

Extreme self-preoccupation

Self-preoccupation is when you become overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This feeling will only create stress because you get started to question your every move. Your focus is devoted to the things that you are doing wrong.

False labeling

When you say and find out yourself as a shy person, you begin to live up to that image.

To beat shyness and social anxiety you should use a few strategies:

Every person is unique. You need to find your strengths and improve on them. Instead finding what's wrong with you, find something that you are good at and give attention to consistently doing it. Find characteristics that put you at an advantage. Within your uniqueness, find what makes you tick and magnify it.

Do not conform and do not try to pretend what you are not. Embrace your uniqueness. What you are not aware of is that each person you come in contact with has some degree of shyness in them. There are people who look cool and composed in the outside who are feeling self-conscious and anxious if people would notice what they are feeling inside.

Figure out how to relax and take deep breaths to calm the anxiety. Yoga can be a good therapy and exercise because it can help you relax. If you are relaxed, you are able to lead your attention away from your own self and you begin to take notice and develop your conversational skills.

Release your stress and anxiety. Do exercise sessions. Instead of being anxious, re-channel your power into something else. Look at things at a complete new point of view. You walk or jog around the neighborhood to release that. Some would suggest doing yoga exercises.

Practice affirmation exercises. Recognize the power of your thoughts and your words. Consistently speak about how confident you are, how happy you are, or how content you are. Say you have the capability, you are confident, and you are wonderful. These words will be picked up by your subconscious mind, imbibes them, and switch them into truth. Realign your thoughts, so rather than nurturing negative thoughts, take into account the positives. Visualization and positive affirmation will change your thinking habits and will cause you to changing your life generally.

There will always be a possibility to be rejected. Accept rejection but don't take it personally. Remember, you don't have the monopoly of emotions. If everyone feels anxious, everyone can be rejected as well. It is how you handle rejections that will determine you. It isn't your fault that you have been rejected, it was not just meant to be. Just move on and learn from it. There shouldn't be any room for self-pity. Consider rejection as a blessing in disguise and then move forward.

Focus on the moment and do not over think situations.

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How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Experts define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you inspired? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as social phobia, anxiety, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am a failure...

I am so fat/thin...

He/she will never look at me...

I will never make it...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. People seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem affects your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too arrogant when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to building your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner message is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a hard time, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that support and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – short, tall, black or white. It is agreeing that you like what you like, you desire what you desire and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Be responsible for you

Begin to realize that no one will come to make you feel better. To each one, life is given, and we have our own lives to live. You are thus responsible for your own happiness. You can sit around and be gloomy about it