Self-Esteem: Build Self-Discipline, Overcome Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Develop Leadership Skills & Become a Better You

By Richard Carroll

Self-Esteem: Build Self-Discipline, Overcome Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Develop Leadership Skills & Become a Better You

If you want to Develop Self-Confidence, Ged Rid of Fear & Negative Thoughts, Achieve Personal Goals & Enjoy Your Life, then this is your book!

This book consists of awesome tips and strategies on how to be happy and on how you can harness inner peace.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

What You'll Learn in Self-Esteem: Build Self-Discipline, Overcome Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Develop Leadership Skills & Become a Better You...

How to Increase Your Communication Skills
How to Overcome Procrastination
How to Realize Your Goals
How to Increase Your Self-Confidence
How to Reduce Stress, Stay Calm and Achieve Happiness
How to Boost Your Self-Esteem
How to Win Friends Through the Power of Charisma
How to Meditate and Live a Richer Life

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everyone believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your doubts. The bad news - you can interpret every people's speech in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Make this experiment: note down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a two-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how great you are. Show to your brain the material proof of your self-confidence.

Communicate with positive and confident people more. Positive people are not trying to pressure you. Choose or modify your social circle, as it directly affects your self-confidence. There is an excellent - "Lives with the cripple, learns how to limp".

Take care of your health. If you feel good, you can achieve a lot. Regular exercises build physical strength, perseverance and boost stress resistance. Choose a healthy diet and sleep a lot. Breaks for rest and relaxation, your personal time should be as usual in your daily routine as, for example, brushing your teeth. Enjoy the fact that you look good, and try to take everything from life. Others will look at you with interest and respect.

This book will help you to improve your self-confidence to overcome social anxiety and shyness.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to put the things you have learned in action and begin to change your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386558125

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Eliminate Shyness

Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Have a Healthier Life

Chapter 3 - How to Master Your Self-Confidence

Chapter 4 - Live Your Dreams!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading this book.

This book consists of amazing tips and techniques on how to develop your communication skills and use them to make more friends and persuade people.

It will help you build a strong, optimistic view of yourself for life. This is for all of you who have problems getting along in life. You may be a victim of bullying, abuse, lack of confidence, or something even more serious. This is your book.

Thanks again for purchasing this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Eliminate Shyness

It might not come as a surprise if you confess that one time or another you felt self-conscious when you are placed in a room full of strangers. But, have you ever experienced so shy that your heartbeat began to race when someone asked you out on a date but you were too shy to say yes? That is another form of social anxiety.

Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at varying degrees. Your shyness might be because of any of the following:

Negative self-image

People who have a negative image of themselves usually assume that their unique characteristics are not as interesting as other folks, thus they aren't worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to trying hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say you need to get back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

Extreme self-preoccupation

Self-preoccupation is when you feel overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This sense is only going to create anxiety because you begin to question your every move. Your focus is centered on the things that you are doing wrong.

False labeling

When you say and see yourself as a shy person, you have the tendency to live up to that image.

To beat shyness and social anxiety you should use a few strategies:

Do not expect that the whole world is analyzing your every move. Remember that most people, including you, are busy looking at themselves. Why not bring your awareness inside? If you have understood the source of your shyness, seek inside your inner thoughts ways to counter that sense of shyness with positive thoughts. Self-awareness is your first step into enhancing yourself.

Stop hating and start liking. The first person who should like yourself is you. Practice realizing and appreciating your uniqueness. Figure out how to love yourself. Find some me time and become grateful for all that you are. Re-acquaint with yourself.

Instead of concentrating on the wrong you may commit focus on the people around you. If you're conversing with a tiny group, pay attention to other people and hear what they have to say. Move your interest into getting to know these people. You probably have one person with whom you have been constantly dealing with in the same department but you don't even know his or her first name because you do not spend time with him or her outside work. Reach out to people.

Release your stress and anxiety. Do exercise sessions. Rather than being stressed, re-channel your power into something else. Look at things at a whole new point of view. You walk or jog around the neighborhood to release that. Some would suggest doing yoga exercises.

If anything bad does happen, do not bail out. You just entered a room full of people and you begin to feel the nervousness so you think that the next best thing is to just leave. Doing this will not help you at all. Turn the problem into something that you can learn from. Why did you suddenly feel that way? Is there a way that you can change how you feel? Face the situation and learn from it. That is the only way you can escape it.

There will always be a possibility of being rejected. Accept rejection but don't take it personally. Remember, you don't have the monopoly of feelings. If everyone feels stressed, everyone can be rejected as well. It is how you handle rejections that will determine you. It is not your fault that you have been rejected, it was not just meant to be. Just move on and learn from it. There shouldn't be any room for self-pity. Consider rejection as a blessing in disguise and then move forward.

Focus on the moment and do not over think situations.

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How to Skyrocket Your Self-Esteem

Psychologists describe self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel able? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as eating disorders, depression, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am a failure...

I am so fat/thin...

It is too stressful to handle...

I can never...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. People seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem affects your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too bullish when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to building your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a hard time, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that care and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – thin, fat, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, you desire what you desire and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Say to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Be responsible for you

Begin to realize that no one will come to make you feel better. To each one, life is given, and we have our own lives to live. You are therefore responsible for your own happiness. You can sit around and be gloomy about it all day, all year, and watch your life waste way, or you can take a stand and own your life and