Overcome Anxiety: Master Self-Confidence, Beat Worrying & Shyness, Build Good Habits & Live Your Dreams

By Richard Carroll

Overcome Anxiety: Master Self-Confidence, Beat Worrying & Shyness, Build Good Habits & Live Your Dreams

If you want to Develop Self-Confidence, Beat Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Improve Body Language & Feel Good In Your Own Skin Again, then this is your book!

This book consists of proven steps and techniques on how to develop self-discipline and achieve your goals.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

What You'll Learn in Overcome Anxiety: Master Self-Confidence, Beat Worrying & Shyness, Build Good Habits & Live Your Dreams...

How to Master Your Communication Skills
How to Get Rid of Procrastination Forever
How to Control Your Time and Get Things Done
How to Improve Your Self-Confidence
How to Reduce Stress, Relax Your Mind and Achieve Peace
How to Skyrocket Your Self-Esteem
How to Win Friends Through the Power of Charisma
How to Reward Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everybody believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your doubts. The bad news - you can interpret every people's speech in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Make a small experiment: note down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a two-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how good you are. Show to your brain the material proof of your self-confidence.

Positive statements. Remember the choice-to train? I know, I can, I know, I can! Positive statements are not about being oblivious to the not so positive but is about proper framing of your reality. Ever the most unpleasant event can be stated in some form of a positive statement. These statements give you the chance to build a productive positive outlook on life which supports your confidence in life. Having a positive outlook on life allows you to access far more of your abilities, thus, you are able to achieve more every day.

Take care of your health. If you feel good, you can achieve a lot. Regular exercises build physical strength, perseverance and increase stress resistance. Choose a healthy diet and sleep a lot. Breaks for rest and meditation, your personal time should be as usual in your daily routine as, for example, brushing your teeth. Enjoy the fact that you look good, and try to take everything from life. Others will look at you with interest and respect.

This book will help you identify effective methods designed to bring out your charismatic personality.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to apply the necessary information from this book in your daily living. You can also share it to your family or work colleagues who are in need of help on how to raise emotional intelligence and improve self-confidence.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386406853

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Defeat Shyness

Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Live a Richer Life

Chapter 3 - How to Master Your Self-Confidence

Chapter 4 - Transform Your Life!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading this book.

This book consists of awesome tips and techniques on how to improve your self-confidence so you can overcome social anxiety and shyness.

What are you waiting for? Kick off your bad habits now and start learning how to control and change yourself—for the better.

Thanks again for downloading this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Defeat Shyness

It might not come as a surprise if you admit that one time or another you experienced self-conscious when you are placed in a room filled with strangers. But, have you ever experienced so shy that your heartbeat started to race when someone asked you out on a date but you were too shy to say yes? This is another form of social anxiety.

Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at varying degrees. Your shyness might be because of any of the following:

Negative self-image

People who have a poor image of themselves usually believe that their unique qualities are not as interesting as other people, thus they are not worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to trying hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say you need to get back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

Extreme self-preoccupation

Self-preoccupation is when you feel overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This feeling will only create anxiety because you get started to question your every move. Your focus is centered on the things that you are doing wrong.

False labeling

When you say and find out yourself as a shy person, you have the tendency to live up to that image.

To overcome shyness and social anxiety you need to use a few strategies:

Every individual is unique. You need to find your strengths and improve on them. Instead finding what is wrong with you, find something that you are good at and focus on consistently doing it. Find qualities that put you at an advantage. In your uniqueness, find what makes you tick and magnify it.

Do not conform and don't try to pretend what you are not. Embrace your uniqueness. What you are not aware of is that each person you come in contact with has some extent of anxiety in them. There are people who look cool and composed in the outside who are feeling self-conscious and anxious if people would notice what they are feeling inside.

Instead of concentrating on the wrong you might commit concentrate on individuals around you. If you're conversing with a small group, pay attention to others and notice what they have to say. Shift your interest into getting to know these people. You probably have one individual with whom you have been constantly working with in the same department but you don't even know his or her first name because you do not spend time with him or her outside work. Reach out to people.

Release your anxiety. Do exercise routines. Instead of being anxious, re-channel your power into something else. Look at things at a complete new perspective. You walk or jog around the neighborhood to release that. Some would suggest doing deep breathing exercises.

If anything bad does happen, do not bail out. You just entered a room full of people and you begin to feel the panic so you feel that the next best thing is to just leave. Doing so will not help you in any way. Turn the situation into something that you can learn from. Why did you suddenly feel that way? Is there a way that you can transform how you feel? Face the problem and learn from it. That is the only way you can get out of it.

There will always be a possibility of being rejected. Accept rejection but don't take it personally. Remember, you don't have the monopoly of emotions. If everyone feels anxious, everyone can be rejected as well. It is how you cope with rejections that will define you. It is not your fault that you have been rejected, it was not just meant to be. Just move on and learn from it. There shouldn't be any place for self-pity. Think of rejection as a blessing in disguise and then move forward.

Concentrate on the moment and do not over think situations.

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How to Develop Your Self-Esteem

Experts describe self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel able? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

If you constantly doubt your self-worth and abilities, if you have no trust in your capacities and potentials and ultimately no pride in yourself, and if you find yourself feeling worthless, then you have issues with self-esteem, and you need to address that before it goes out of hand.

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too bullish when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to increasing your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Live Consciously

Do not betray your mind as it is man’s basic survival kit; it tells you what to do. Live in a way that you do not lie to yourself. Clear that mental fog in your head and understand that you are human.

Understand and put thought in all that you do

Make informed choices, and avoid impulsiveness. If you do not live mindfully, your brain freezes, it is no longer able to send meaningful messages to you because you keep doing the opposite. For instance, stop lying about things that you may not have or are not able to do. Stop lying to yourself that he or she loves you and that he or she will come around. Mixed signals will kill your mind. You are only making room for mental dysfunction. Do not trick your mind anymore into believing things that are not true and hence living a lie. Accept things the way they are; it is a daily walk.

Be responsible for you

Begin to realize that no one will come to make you feel better. To each one, life is given, and we have our own lives to live. You are therefore responsible for your own happiness. You can sit around and be gloomy about it all day, all year, and watch your life waste way, or you can take a stand and own your life and happiness.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know