How to Be Your Own Hero: Develop Self-Confidence, Defeat Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Find Your Passion & Get More Friends

By Richard Carroll

How to Be Your Own Hero: Develop Self-Confidence, Defeat Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Find Your Passion & Get More Friends

If you want to Increase Self-Control, Beat Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Find Your Passion & Attract Hapiness, then this is your book!

This book contains awesome tips and techniques on how to develop self-discipline and achieve your goals.

What are you waiting for? Kick off your bad habits now and start learning how to control and change yourself—for the better.

What You'll Learn in How to Be Your Own Hero: Develop Self-Confidence, Defeat Worrying & Negative Thoughts, Find Your Passion & Get More Friends...

How to Declutter, De-Stress and Simplify Your Life With Minimalism
How to Make The Most of Your Day with Morning Routine
How to Increase Your Body Language
How to Cultivate Great Habits
How to Live in The Moment Through Mindfulness
How to Bring Positivity in Your Life
How to Become a Great Leader That Everyone Will Follow
How to Reward Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everyone believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your fears. The bad news - you can interpret every people's sight in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Try a small experiment: write down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a two-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how great you are. Show to your mind the material proof of your self-confidence.

Surround yourself with positive people. The more you surround yourself with positive and confident individuals in all areas of your life the more you will begin to feel the same. The very interaction with confidence motivates you to feel the same, it is contagious. The same goes for negativity. So, take a look at the people in your life and reflect on their net input regarding confidence in your life. True friends help you be more of yourself as far as it is concerned.

Exercise. Once you exercise, even just simple walking, you'll find out that you get this surge of adrenaline. This is because happy hormones are released and thus, you feel more confident about yourself, and more confident that you are actually capable of doing great things. Plus, once you exercise, you'll get to be healthy and very beautiful, too.

This book will help you to improve your self-confidence to overcome social anxiety and shyness.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to put to work the steps written in this book and see your life change for the better. Remember, you can do this. Your life is in your hands—so make it great.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781540158307

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Overcome Shyness

Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Have a Richer Life

Chapter 3 - How to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Chapter 4 - Start Living Today!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading this book.

This book consists of amazing steps and strategies on how to develop your communication skills and use them to make more friends and persuade people.

It will help you build a strong, optimistic view of yourself for life. This is for all of you who have problems getting along in life. You may be a victim of bullying, abuse, lack of confidence, or something even more serious. This is your book.

Thanks again for purchasing this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Overcome Shyness

It doesn't matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, because everyone can relate to having a feeling of shyness sooner or later. Most individuals believe that introverts are the most likely to have emotions of shyness. It isn't actually correct because extroverts also tend to feel unpleasant when they are around people.

Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at differing degrees. Your shyness might be because of the following:

Negative self-image

People who have a poor image of themselves usually think that their unique characteristics aren't as interesting as other people, thus they are not worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to trying hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say you need to go back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

Extreme self-preoccupation

Self-preoccupation is when you feel overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This feeling is only going to create stress because you get started to question your every move. Your focus is centered on the things that you are doing wrong.

False labeling

When you say and see yourself as a shy person, you have the tendency to live up to that image.

To defeat shyness and social anxiety you need to use a few strategies:

Do not assume that the whole world is analyzing your every move. Remember that most people, including you, are busy looking at themselves. Why not bring your awareness inside? If you have understood the source of your shyness, seek within your inner thoughts how you can counter that sense of shyness with positive thoughts. Self-awareness is your initial step into improving yourself.

Stop hating and start liking. The first person that should like yourself is you. Practice recognizing and appreciating your uniqueness. Learn to love yourself. Find some me time and be grateful for all that you are. Re-acquaint with yourself.

Figure out how to relax and take deep breaths to relax the anxiety. Yoga can be a good therapy and exercise since it can help you relax. If you are relaxed, you are able to direct your attention away from your own self and you begin to take notice and develop your conversational skills.

Release your stress and anxiety. Do exercise routines. Rather than being anxious, re-channel your energy into something else. Look at things at a complete new perspective. You walk or jog around the neighborhood to release that. Some would suggest doing yoga exercises.

Practice affirmation exercises. Discover the power of your thoughts and your words. Consistently speak about how confident you are, how happy you are, or how content you are. Say you have the capability, you are self-confident, and you are wonderful. These words will be picked up by your subconscious mind, imbibes them, and transform them into reality. Realign your thoughts, so instead of nurturing negative thoughts, take into account the positives. Visualization and positive affirmation changes your thinking habits and will cause you to changing your life generally.

Nobody's perfect. Regardless of how popular a person is, he's still not perfect, so stop comparing yourself with others.

Stop the labeling and just be as assured as you can be.

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How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Psychologists define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you encouraged? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as social phobia, anxiety, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am so dead/I am going to die...

What was I thinking...?

It is too stressful to handle...

I will never make it...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. People seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too aggressive when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to improving your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Live Consciously

Do not betray your mind as it is man’s basic survival kit; it tells you what to do. Live in a way that you do not lie to yourself. Clear that mental fog in your head and understand that you are human.

Understand and put thought in all that you do

Make informed decisions, and avoid impulsiveness. If you do not live mindfully, your brain freezes, it is no longer able to send meaningful messages to you because you keep doing the opposite. For instance, stop lying about things that you may not have or are not able to do. Stop lying to yourself that he or she loves you and that he or she will come around. Mixed signals will kill your mind. You are only making room for mental dysfunction. Do not trick your mind anymore into believing things that are not true and hence living a lie. Accept things the way they are; it is a daily walk.

Be responsible for you

Begin to realize that no one will come to make you feel better. To each one, life is given, and we have our own lives to live. You are therefore responsible for your own happiness. You can sit around and be gloomy about it all day, all year, and watch your life waste way, or you can take a stand and own your life and happiness.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know your rights and respect those of others too. It means you listen to other people also as much as you listen to yourself. Living as an assertive person is speaking and doing from your beliefs and principles.

Seek for a mentor

If the source of your self-esteem comes from school, seek the