Take Life to the Next Level: Boost Self-Esteem, Defeat Anxiety & Shyness, Find Your Passion & Become a Great Leader

By Richard Carroll

Take Life to the Next Level: Boost Self-Esteem, Defeat Anxiety & Shyness, Find Your Passion & Become a Great Leader

If you want to Increase Self-Confidence, Stop Social Anxiety & Stress, Build Good Habits & Change Your Life, then this is your book!

This book consists of amazing steps and strategies on how to be happy and on how you can harness inner peace.

When you have control over your thoughts and actions, then your self-esteem would go higher, and you will also learn how to develop yourself in such a way that you would become a better and stronger person. Learn how to develop self-esteem and enjoy life with the tips provided in this book. Read on and find out!

What You'll Learn in Take Life to the Next Level: Boost Self-Esteem, Defeat Anxiety & Shyness, Find Your Passion & Become a Great Leader...

How to Improve Your Communication Skills
How to Get Rid of Procrastination
How to Achieve Your Goals
How to Develop Great Habits
How to Uncover The Willpower In You
How to Increase Your Self-Control
How to Skyrocket Your Charisma
How to Explore Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everybody believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your doubts. The bad news - you can interpret every people's speech in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Make a small experiment: write down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a three-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how great you are. Show to your brain the material proof of your self-confidence.

Communicate with positive and confident people more. Positive individuals are not trying to pressure you. Choose or rearrange your social circle, as it directly affects your self-confidence. There is a right phrase - "Lives with the cripple, learns how to limp".

Appearance is everything. When you look good you feel good. Simple. If you are walking around looking like you just got out of a rubbish bin, you probably won't be too confident about yourself. We all know how you feel when you walk out of the hairdresser, you walk a bit taller, you walk with purpose. So look after yourself and dress your best and you will feel your best. You know your superb features to show them off!

This book will help you to build your self esteem.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to put to work the steps written in this book and see your life change for the better. Remember, you can do this. Your life is in your hands—so make it great.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386445562

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Defeat Insecurity

Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Enjoy a Healthier Life

Chapter 3 - How to Improve Your Self-Confidence

Chapter 4 - Transform Your Life!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading this book.

This book consists of proven tips and techniques on how to improve your self-confidence so you can overcome social anxiety and shyness.

What are you waiting for? Kick off your bad habits now and start learning how to control and change yourself—for the better.

Thanks again for downloading this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Defeat Insecurity

It may not come as a surprise if you admit that one time or another you experienced self-conscious when you are placed in a room full of strangers. But, have you ever experienced so shy that your heartbeat started to race when a person asked you out on a date but you were too shy to say yes? That is another form of social anxiety.

Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at varying levels. Your shyness might be because of any of the following:

Negative self-image

Individuals who have a poor image of themselves usually think that their unique characteristics are not as interesting as other folks, thus they are not worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to trying hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say that you have to go back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

Extreme self-preoccupation

Self-preoccupation is when you feel overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This feeling will only create nervousness because you start to question your every move. Your focus is devoted to the things that you are doing wrong.

False labeling

When you say and find out yourself as a shy person, you begin to live up to that image.

To defeat shyness and social anxiety you need to use a few strategies:

Every person is unique. You need to find your strengths and improve on them. Instead finding what's wrong with you, find something that you are good at and focus on consistently doing it. Find qualities that put you at an advantage. Within your uniqueness, find what makes you tick and magnify it.

Stop hating and start liking. The first person who should like yourself is you. Practice realizing and appreciating your uniqueness. Figure out how to love yourself. Find some me time and become grateful for all that you are. Re-acquaint with yourself.

Instead of concentrating on the wrong you may commit focus on the people around you. If you are conversing with a small group, focus on others and hear what they have to say. Move your interest into getting to know these people. You probably have one person with whom you have been constantly dealing with in the same department but you don't even know his or her first name because you do not spend time with him or her outside work. Reach out to people.

Release your anxiety. Do exercise routines. Instead of being stressed, re-channel your power into something else. Look at things at a complete new point of view. You walk or jog around the neighborhood to release that. Some would suggest doing yoga exercises.

Practice affirmation exercises. Recognize the power of your thoughts and your words. Consistently speak about how confident you are, how happy you are, or how content you are. Say you are capable, you are self-confident, and you are wonderful. These words will be picked up by your subconscious mind, imbibes them, and transform them into truth. Realign your thoughts, so instead of nurturing negative thoughts, take into account the positives. Visualization and positive affirmation changes your thinking habits and will cause you to changing your life generally.

Nobody's perfect. Regardless of how popular a person is, he's still not perfect, so quit comparing yourself with others.

Practice your social skills. Go out there and mingle.

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How to Increase Your Self-Esteem

Experts describe self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel able? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as eating disorders, depression, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am a failure...

I am so fat/thin...

It is too stressful to handle...

I will never make it...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too aggressive when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to mastering your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a rough place, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that support and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – thin, fat, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, you desire what you desire and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with honor and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know your rights and respect those of others too. It means you listen to other people also as