Declutter Your Life: Boost Self-Control, Defeat Worrying & Stress, Build Good Habits & Get More Friends

By Richard Carroll

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If you want to Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Negative Thoughts, Be More Productive & Get More Friends, then this is your book!

This book consists of proven steps and strategies on how to be productive and to be successful with your day to day life.

Many people barely develop self-discipline because of various reasons. It could be stress, lack of motivation, and exhaustion. However, despite these varied causes, there are ways on how you can become a successful person. Self-esteem is not just about controlling oneself, but is about living a healthy, quality and successful life. Learn how to develop self-esteem and enjoy life with the strategies provided in this book. Read on and find out!

What You'll Learn in XXXXX...

How to Improve Your Communication Skills
How to Make The Most of Your Day with Morning Routine
How to Master Your Body Language
How to Master Perfect Habits
How to Achieve Happiness Through Mindfulness
How to Boost Your Self-Control
How to Fascinate People Through the Power of Charisma
How to Explore Yourself

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everyone believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your fears. The bad news - you can interpret every people's speech in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Make this experiment: note down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a three-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how great you are. Show to your mind the material proof of your self-confidence.

Surround yourself with positive people. The more you surround yourself with positive and confident people in all areas of your life the more you will begin to feel the same. The very interaction with confidence motivates you to feel the same, it is contagious. The same goes for negativity. So, take a look at the people in your life and reflect on their net input regarding confidence in your life. Real friends support you be more of yourself as far as it is concerned.

Appearance is everything. When you look good you feel good. Simple. If you are walking around looking like you just got out of a rubbish bin, you probably won't be too confident about yourself. We all know how you feel when you walk out of the hairdresser, you walk a bit taller, you walk with purpose. So look after yourself and dress your best and you will feel your best. You know your superb features to show them off!

This book will help you to improve your self-confidence to overcome social anxiety and shyness.  

Improving yourself takes time and effort. You have to be willing to make the changes and be committed to taking action rather than just reading about them.   

The next step is to follow the given steps and start understanding yourself, your environment and the factors that will drive you to passionate success.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386623038

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Chapter 2 - How to Develop Your Body Language

Chapter 3 - How to Be More Productive & Achieve Anything

Chapter 4 - Success is a Journey!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for purchasing this book.

This book contains proven tips and techniques on how to learn ways to control and learn how to discipline yourself.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

Thanks again for purchasing this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Experts define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel able? Are you proud of yourself? Are you inspired? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as social phobia, depression, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am so dead/I am going to die...

I am so fat/thin...

It is too stressful to handle...

I can never...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. People seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem affects your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too bullish when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to developing your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner message is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a hard time, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that support and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Understand and put thought in all that you do

Make informed decisions, and avoid impulsiveness. If you do not live mindfully, your brain freezes, it is no longer able to send meaningful messages to you because you keep doing the opposite. For instance, stop lying about things that you may not have or are not able to do. Stop lying to yourself that he or she loves you and that he or she will come around. Mixed signals will kill your mind. You are only making room for mental dysfunction. Do not trick your mind anymore into believing things that are not true and hence living a lie. Accept things the way they are; it is a daily walk.

Be responsible for you

Begin to realize that no one will come to make you feel better. To each one, life is given, and we have our own lives to live. You are hence responsible for your own happiness. You can sit around and be gloomy about it all day, all year, and watch your life waste way, or you can take a stand and own your life and happiness.

Do not listen to negativity from people

You alone can make your life heaven or hell. Isn’t it great that the power to do all these lies in your hands? Wake up and smell the coffee because your time for living for other people is over.

Seek for a mentor

If the source of your self-esteem comes from school, seek the help of your teachers. There are also other professionals in the education system that should help you with school issues. If you are being bullied or teased, for example, a teacher is a person trained to be an all-rounded instructor so he can help you.

Live with a Purpose

Living with purpose is not waiting upon chance to guide your life. It is refusing to be at the mercy of chance. It is being the initiator of your own course, the controller. Living without a purpose is waiting upon things to happen, for things to be handed down without initiative, for being reactive and drifting along.

When you begin to realize the potential you have and start to plan your life, your self-esteem is nurtured. You become a wholesome person day by day. Ask yourself: what is it I am going to achieve? How? Are my means appropriate? Is there new information I need to consider? Living purposefully requires you to be conscious of what you do while rethinking goals.

Living purposefully is a mark of success for people who enjoy control over their lives and are successful. Simply put, success in life requires that we live purposefully, knowing where we are going.

How to Reward Yourself

The best investment you can ever make is one that you make in yourself. Self-investment can yield instant pay-off and bigger future returns. If you want to become more productive, then you need to prioritize your growth both personally and professionally. It is the key to a more successful and satisfying life.

Read to feed your brain

One of the things all successful people have in common is the passion for reading books. Read not just for entertainment. Take up reading as a hobby. Charles William Eliot once said, Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors and the most patient of teachers.

Read materials that increase your knowledge of the world and of yourself. Read books that can teach you a new set of skills and help you to become a better version of yourself. Read books that challenge you and motivate you to step it up.

Invest in personal development courses

The brain works like a muscle. It gets much stronger when you use and exercise it. On the other hand, it becomes weaker if you do nothing with it. Engage in activities that challenge you. Try out something new. These things allow you to stretch your skillset to ways you have never reached before.

Learn a new language. Instead of running, try archery, dancing or surfing. Improve your education in every possible way you can. New activities challenge you to discover new things that will otherwise remain hidden and untapped.

Explore your creativity

Every person has a gift of creativity. For some people, it is quite obvious but for others, it has to be unearthed. Tap into your creative side. It could hold the key to unlocking your highest potential.

Creativity is not just about creating beautiful ideas. Creativity can help you approach problems in different ways and find solutions outside the box. Creativity forces us to use other parts of our brain that may be untapped but are equally crucial for our individual growth.

In truth, creativity comes in many forms. It is not just exclusive for musicians, writers or painters. In essence, creativity is about exploring new things.

Write something. Cook or make your own clothes. Explore the outdoors and let it inspire you to make something tangible. Pick