Armani Archives: Unlock your Mindset to Become More Confident & Creative

By Armani Talks

Learn to build your confidence and creativity in the Armani Archives.

Table of contents

What is Confidence?

The Journey to Thick Skin

Working with your Back Against the Wall

Hypnotize Yourself

Outrage Culture

The Birth of a Winner

How to Level Up

Self Confidence

The Easies

• Language: English
• Publisher: Armani Talks
• Release date: Apr 17, 2024
• ISBN: 9798869032249

Book preview

What is Confidence?

The term confidence has been thrown around a lot.

But what is it?

Is it a person who is charismatic?

A person who is well liked?

Someone who is just happy?

Well after years & years of thinking about this, I have finally come to a realization.

'What did you realize?'

Confidence is when you just stop giving a fuck.

The Journey that Sparked this Epiphany

A few years ago, I was going thru my rock bottom moment:

The girl that I was supposed to get engaged with & I decided to call it quits.

I had gotten scammed out of 2,500$ for my first business deal.

Was getting sued after a car accident.

By the way, did I mention I totaled my car?

The totaled car led me to spending a lot of time at home.

Most of my days included watching battle rap, drinking, eating like a pig & knocking out.

Rinse & repeat.

I was starting to feel super depressed.

All the days began to blend together.

Life began to seem pointless.

Was this how my life was going to be?

Did I seal my fate?

Is this it?

It was on my 25th birthday that something BIG had happened.

I remembered I looked into the mirror one day, disgusted by what I saw.

A fat, dirty, sad looking loser.

At that exact moment, I realized that I was counting myself out too soon.

This couldn't possibly be it.

And I had to make sure of it.

It was time to begin a new journey.

A journey that would not be easy.

But a journey that would hopefully be worth it.

It was time to level up.

Level Up Mentality

I spend the next few months putting in work!

Rejoined Toastmasters.

Went to the gym consistently.

Read books.

Forced myself to go to social events.

Picked up new hobbies.

Day in & day out, it was all about small incremental progress.

Every day became a day to improve & out do my prior day self.

I didn't notice any difference because I was so caught up in the moment.

But the skills that I was investing in were soon starting to pile up.

Although I had not noticed it at the time, life really did begin changing.

'Began changing how?'

I felt more confident.

'Really? Just from leveling up?'

Yes.

Just from leveling up.

Why Self Improvement Leads to Confidence

The beauty about the self-improvement journey is that it allows you to become best friends with yourself.

Just like myself, many others began their self-improvement journey from their rock bottom moment.

The emotional pain they felt forced them to make significant life changes.

But once the journey begins? Life changes.

You create a north star for your life.

You overcome conflicts that your past self-deemed impossible.

Your mind & heart come together in harmony.

When that happens, you no longer care about other people opinions that much.

You no longer give a fuck.

Your main concern is leveling up, and everything else soon becomes noise.

Once that transition occurs, something magical happens.

You are now more well-liked by your peers.

Who would have imagined, right?

But it makes sense.

Humans like competent humans.

The fact that you are leveling up past your comfort zone makes you much more than competent.

It makes you valuable.

Now you no longer need others.

They NEED you.

And that is when you unlock confidence.

Are you Confident?

'To be honest bro, no. I'm not confident.'

Okay, that's fine.

Acknowledgement starts your journey in the first place.

Now one is born onto this planet confident.

It is exercised onto our existence.

If you're not confident, fine.

But make sure you do something about it!!!

I challenge you to begin your level up journey.

Become confident & no longer give a fuck about what others think of you.

With that being said, what moves you are making to become valuable?

Investing in a skill, creating something, giving back?

Whatever you choose, just be sure to go all in.

Your glory awaits.

The Journey to Thick Skin

‘Am I thick-skinned?’

Nah you are thin skinned.

‘Well, what the hell do you know?’

Point proven.

Tsk Tsk

Such a big problem in today’s society.

So many thin-skinned clowns walking around getting offended by every last thing.

What happened?

Our species has fought battles, saved lives, and overcame so many conflicts thrown their way.

Then why are so many people thin-skinned now?

Hm.....

I know why!

Coddling.

Misguided use of technology.

Misperception on what to focus on.

Mainstream media telling us to be offended by everything.

Those are just a few reasons why.

'How do you know?'

Because I used to be thin-skinned.

Very thin skinned.

'Really?'

Ya.

Picture a shy, skinny, wimpy little tittyboy.

'Okay..'

Well, that was me.

I was very self-conscious.

Anytime I wanted to talk to someone, I would be a nervous wreck.

Social interactions felt like mission impossible.

Question for you

Don’t lie to me now.

Have you ever had that moment where you were blasted with anxiety while talking to someone?

*take a few seconds to recall a moment like this*

Let me guess.

You were extra jerky with your body language.

Voice became softer.

Activated bobblehead mode by agreeing to every point.

You avoided eye contact.

‘Wowzers! I remember a few interactions that I had like that!’

Well, guess what?

That was my LIFE.

I was a squirmy nervous mess.

Embarrassing moment

Now I am going to tell you a quick little story.

Pretty beta of me, but who cares.

The year was 2008.

I was in 11th grade.

There was this cutie in my Social Studies class.

Her name was Sarah.

I had a huge crush on her.

She had long black hair, nice style & had a sense of humor.

You know what was the best part?

'What?'

She was Bengali, just like me.

I sat right behind her in class.

Had many opportunities to strike up a conversation.

But the only problem was that I was too shy.

A lot of my homeboys would clown me because they knew I liked her, but would never utter a word.

'Bro... Armani... please ... We beg you! Just say one word to her. Sarah told Ryan that she thinks you are cute.'

Wait, forreal?

'Yessir.'

They were not joking. Ryan confirmed that she did indeed have a crush on me as well.

This was amazing!

If that is the case, hell ya I will talk to her.

Now the only question is, what do I say?

Class is in session

The next day, I was pretty hyped.

There was a huge list of topics that I had planned out in my head.

All I had to do was tap her on the shoulder and let the convo flow.

*class bell rings*

Sarah came & sat down.

Well here it goes...

*taps shoulder*

*she turns around*

'Whatsup Arman?'

Uh.........

'Is everything okay?'

Uh, yes. Um.. how ... um are you?

'I am doing well, you?'

I am doing well too. Okay well great talking to you.

*Sarah gives me a creeped out look and turns back around*

'That's it??'

Ya.

That was it.

Not sure what happened to me.

But I had planned out the conversation so much in my head, that when the moment arrived, I froze like a little bitch.

My body language was off, voice became jittery, avoided eye contact. Yes. All this happened in only 15-20 seconds of 'conversation.'

Needless to say, Sarah probably thought I was some wierdo.

And you know what's sad about all of this?

'What?'

I spent YEARS like this.

Life was soo hard.

Every interaction was getting harder.

But you know what was strange?

I wasn’t really a bad communicator……when I spoke to people that I was comfortable with.

For example, family members and close friends really got a peek into my personality.

Everyone that I was comfortable with saw a humble, laid back, funny kid.

But the rest of the world considered me a squirmy fuck.

What to do?

Hm…

Who should I ask?

How about someone older?

Aha!

Have the perfect person in min.

My Grandpa

I went up to my grandpa that day after the entire debacle with Sarah.

Grandpa, I have a question.

'I may have an answer. Shoot.'

Well, every time I want to talk to a new person, I become a nervous wreck. I just freeze. Not sure why.

‘Ah I see. I know what your issue is. You are a thin-skinned fuck, grandson.’

Huh?

‘You have thin skin. You care about other people’s opinions. That is why you keep freezing up.’

So what do I do?

‘I am going to give you the same advice that my grandpa gave me when I was your age. Ready?'

Yessir.

'You need to rack up more conflicts by adding a vision to your life. Right now, you are aimless.’

What? What the hell is that going to do for my jerky movements?

‘Watch your mouth grandson. Let me explain. You care about the opinions of others. And the reason you care is because you have no vision. You are not fighting for a big goal. So instead of thinking big picture, you continue to focus on the small picture. An example of the small picture is caring about opinions of people who do not really care about you.'

Yea. You’re speaking facts so far.

‘So you need to have a life goal. And you need to chase that goal for your whole life.'

Entire life?

'Yes. Throughout your journey, you will come across many conflicts. These conflicts will strengthen your armor.