Do As I Say, Not As I Do: A Self-Deprecating Reflection on Life to Help Others Succeed
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Wouldn't it be great if you had a guidebook that illustrated the wrong way to handle situations? That way, you'd know how not to do things and, hopefully, save yourself some heartache? Luckily, writer Diane DiPiero Rodio has lived through a host of missteps, and now she's sharing them in a book designed to help you avoid similar embarrassment. E
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Do As I Say, Not As I Do - Diane DiPiero Rodio
Do as I Say, Not as I Did
Parafine Press
Copyright © 2020 by Diane DiPiero Rodio
All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the author except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
First Parafine Press Edition 2020
ISBN: 978-1-950843-34-3
Parafine Press
www.parafinepress.com
Book design by David Wilson
Cover design by David Wilson
Table of Contents
Forward
Chapter 1: Don’t You Ever Doubt Yourself
Chapter 2: Remember, It’s Not About You
Chapter 3: Use Common Sense—Always
Chapter 4: There Are No Dumb Questions, So Ask Away
Chapter 5: Never Give Up on Your Values
Chapter 6 Don’t Let a Week Go by Without Calling Your Family
Chapter 7: Knock Off the Daydreaming
Chapter 8: Don’t Let Anyone Talk You Out of Your Goals (as Long as They Make Sense)
Chapter 9: Always Take the Time to Stretch
Chapter 10: Never Forget Where You Came From
Chapter 11: Quit Your Bellyaching
Chapter 12: Brush Your Teeth
Chapter 13: Laugh and the World Laughs with You
Chapter 14: There Is No Timetable for Pulling It All Together
Chapter 15: Don’t Look Back in Anger
Acknowledgments
Do as I Say, Not as I Did
A Self-Deprecating Reflection on Life to Help Others Succeed
Diane DiPiero Rodio
FORWARD
That spelling was intentional.
Don’t think of this as the beginning of a book—a foreword. This is the beginning of your life away from your home base. You are moving forward. You are growing up. And in that march toward independence, you will likely look to those who have gone before you for sage advice and examples of enlightened living.
You won’t get that here.
Instead, I have taken it upon myself to recall the more humiliating, face-palm moments of my life as vivid illustrations of how not to go about achieving success and/or inner joy. This act of selflessness on my part should not be taken lightly. Each nonsensical act should be met with a laugh but also with a distinct understanding that you must do exactly the opposite of what I did. With the benefit of hindsight, I can more clearly see these missteps, and, for the sake of posterity, fully realize how things really should have been done. I can’t relive my life, so the onus is on you.
Do as I say, not as I did.
P.S.—Please don’t feel sorry for me. The fact that I can remember my mistakes means there weren’t all that many of them. There’s been more good than bad, more right than wrong. This book wouldn’t be half as interesting, though, if I wrote about everything I did correctly. So sit back and enjoy, but be sure to pay attention!
CHAPTER 1
DON’T YOU EVER DOUBT YOURSELF
Have you ever seen people who make mistakes and don’t care? They’ll say something completely wrong in class or drive in the opposite direction of where they should be going, and they just shrug their shoulders and say, Oh well.
They believe in themselves enough to realize it’s okay to make a few mistakes.
Now here’s the difference between those people and me. "Oh hell" is what I would have said.
"Oh hell, am I stupid."
"Oh hell, everyone thinks I’m an idiot."
"Oh hell, I’m never going to speak in class/drive again."
What kind of an attitude is that? A really bad one. An attitude that eats away at your self-confidence and gives others the impression that you’re too wrapped up in yourself.
I used to think that I worried too much about what other people thought, but really I was worrying too much about what I thought other people were thinking about me. I hope you follow what I’m saying. Don’t become so consumed with your perceptions of yourself or of how you envision others seeing you that you silence your thoughts and deprive others of the amazing talents you have. Don’t deprive them of the chance to see you make a mistake and laugh about it.
I wish someone had given me this advice when I was younger.
During my years with a magazine in New York, we had monthly idea meetings. Everyone was encouraged to come prepared with at least two story ideas related to design and architecture. Some people (the overachievers) showed up in the editor’s office with a thick file of information related to the half-dozen ideas they breathlessly shared. Others (the kiss-ups) came empty-handed but were able to pull an idea out of thin air and sell it to the editor.
Then you had me. I might have had an idea or two every once in a while, but was I going to share them in front of everyone and risk the humiliation of being told that they were half-baked? Of course not. I just smiled and nodded at people’s ideas and looked down at my nails anytime the editor started to scan the room, in case he thought about calling on me. I know, how very ninth grade
of me.
My line of thinking at the time was, I don’t want to appear dumb to these people.
So, how did I appear to them after not taking part in a brainstorming session? Yeah, probably dumb. They all knew I wasn’t, of course, because I was a good and reliable writer, but I certainly didn’t come across as the type of confident person who could actually drum up the ideas for articles she’d like to write.
Ugh. When I look back on that, I want to jump into the past and throttle myself. What are you doing? You look like an idiot, just the thing you didn’t want! Say something, anything. Suggest a story on turnpike restroom design, for Pete’s sake. At least you’d get a laugh out of people.
YOU are not going to go down this path. Not if I can help it. The strength within you has to propel you forward and drown out the negative voices in your head. Speak up. Say something, as long as it’s pertinent to the topic. Sometimes you will feel this little burning inside of you, and it’s not indigestion. It’s the realization that a great thought has come to you and it should be shared.
Share it. If it falls on deaf ears, it either needs to be refined or the people with whom you shared it don’t recognize your brilliance. Don’t squash that great idea. Share it with someone else. Hold on to it for the future. Do not tell yourself that your concept was dumb—or that you are dumb. You just haven’t found the right audience. Or maybe this is just the germ of a fantastic idea that will come into full bloom with time. You will never know unless you speak up. And in order to speak up, you have to believe in yourself.
Self-confidence will take you far in life. It’s the gift that will tell you when to take action in the