Podcast #465





Being Yourself When You Feel Disconnected from Others
 




In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about….


What to do when you feel like you don't belong, and you're not happy alone and not comfortable around people.How to connect when you feel unable to connect or connecting feels flat or insincere and unfulfillingManaging the fear of being misunderstood and hesitation in wanting to speak up, post or have a voice out of fear that good intentions might be misconstrued










 
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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T BELONG



Learn how to be by yourself, and what the normal amount of down time is by yourself.



Know what your head says to yourself when you're lonely.



Mine says:



You don't matter.



No one cares about you.



What you do doesn't matter.



You're alone.



Nothing matters.



Everyone else is doing something interesting.



Recognize the lies.Learn to like spending time with yourself.Normalize boredom.Admit that you're lonely, but know you're not alone; it's not just you.Write down positive memories or gratitude.Intentionally pursue connection with others- people or animals, known or unknown.Create a schedule, including a bedtime. (Sadness amplifies at night)



It's harder to feel alone when you have a plan and a purpose.


 
HOW TO CONNECT WHEN YOU FEEL UNABLE TO CONNECT



…Or connecting feels flat and insincere and unfulfilling



Take away the vanity metrics of superficial and insincere relationships and connections on social media.



Every connection you have is gold - don't downplay connection you do have because that person "is supposed to like you or help you"



Connection is vulnerable.



But you are brave, and open.



You are willing to be seen, and if you are, you will be able to connect.



But to be willing to be seen you have know that you are enough.



You are worthy of being seen.



Your story is interesting and matters.



Your hobbies and likes are not random, or boring.



Connection takes time, and practice.



It's created tiny moment at a time.



Practice with strangers, where there's no risk.



Give a compliment.



Start up a conversation.



Go out of your way.



Get curious.



Connection comes from curiosity and conversation.


 
MANAGING THE FEAR OF BEING MISUNDERSTOOD



Being misunderstood doesn't mean that you don't belong.



We crave understanding.



"I believe you have to be willing to be misunderstood if you're going to innovate." -Jeff Bezos



Left unchecked, the fear of being misunderstood will:



Stop you from being you



Slow down your creativity



Create overthinking and overwhelm, making you stuck in your own head



Prevent you from creating connection with others



Put blocks in your exploration of new ideas or thoughts



Adjust your expectations.Decide how you want to define and understand yourself.Recognize your own place in the world and how you contribute.Be open to mistakes, failures and embarrassment as neutral experiencesAcknowledge your vulnerability and embrac...